Post # 1
My fiancé and I have been engaged since May and there has been no offer for an engagement party. Traditionally the parents of the bride throw the party, but my parents have told me they would not be hosting one. So I’m curious if any other June brides have been offered a party? Or does that typically take place closer to the wedding date?
What’s a typical timeline for the parties that are associated with a wedding? Showers, engagement, bachelorette, etc.
Post # 3
We opted not to have one since his family is in Michigan and our family are all in Philly and Bmore. I don’t know how the shower is going to work out, but I know we’re having one!!
Post # 4
We didnt have an engagement party. That is one of the parties that I didnt really care or.. In fact. I don’t really want any of the pre married parties… people can just bring presents to the wedding.. all the showers are just going to be something that eat up time that i could be getting school done or wedding planning done.
Post # 5
FI’s aunt and uncle offered to throw us an engagement party, but we didn’t really want one. There’s no good time for one (to get both sides of the family together), so I’m fine with just seeing everyone at the wedding. If you do want one, you could always throw one for yourselves… it doesn’t matter when it is, but typically they’re done close to the time you get engaged.
Post # 6
Fh’s mom was going to throw us a Engagement Party….then in the month she had told us it would be retracted the telling. So I don’t think we will be having one now that we have been engadged for a year. We will be having a shower, and only one, somewhere, I have no clue where.
Post # 7
FI’s parents are throwing us an Engagement Party, but I agree with those that say its an extra hassle! You have to think about a whole other guest list, and you have to do your registry before the party rather than just the wedding. I’m not that interested in a shower either but I will probably have one of those, too, in the spring.
Post # 8
My fiance and I didn’t throw an e-party. All of my family lives out of town, them in SC us in NY. So it would have been hard trying to plan something.
Typically a bridal shower should be anywhere from 6months before to the week of the wedding. The e-party is done shortly after your engaged. And the bachelorette party is usually around 3 weeks before the wedding. These can all differ on each bride and what works best for your wedding.
Post # 9
My parents threw a very small impromtu engagement party for my dad’s side of the family (about 20 people). They just threw together a BBQ, which is pretty typical for them anyways. The only difference was that it was still winter out! But that’s how we announced it to my close family.
Post # 10
Nope, no Engagement Party for us…but that’s probably in LARGE part due to the fact that we’ve been together for 11 years, so the main purpose of announcing the expectation of a wedding is a moot point.
Don’t know about the other pre-wedding parties…I know my co-workers will throw me a work bachelorette party since that’s a tradition at our school (teachers), but as for shower & b-party, no definite plans. I guess we’re so wrapped up in the wedding planning, it really hasn’t occured to us to think about anything else.
Post # 11
Thanks everyone! These were helpful responses and I’m sure if we do something it will be a small dinner. It would be hard to hold one when most of our family doesn’t live in the same city as us.
Post # 12
We didn’t have an e-party either … It does seem like a lot of extra work when I’m already so preoccupied! 🙂
Post # 13
The usual time line—engagement parties—whenever you want it, but I would not do it within 6 months of the wedding unless it was a really small engagement party.
The reason is—your family/friends will have enough things to attend in the weeks leading up to the wedding. Many people do not have engagement parties.
For a bridal tea or bridal shower—it’s up to your hostesses, but here, we do primarily bridal teas and they are held 2-3 months prior to the wedding. We never do them in the month of the wedding.
Lingerie shower is usually 1 month to 2 weeks before the wedding.
Bacholorette, if there is one, usually 1-2 weeks before the wedding.
Bridesmaid’s luncheon—no more than 7 days prior to the wedding.
Hope that helps!