- 4 years ago
Bit of a sensitive subject for me (or anyone with this problem!). I sincerely apologise for the lengthy post in advance.
The problem is my partner seems to hardly want to have sex with me. We are both only 22, been together for 2 years and 4 months and lived together for 2 years this month. We love each other dearly and yes we fight occasionally but not to the extreme. It seems so strange that this should be an issue at this time of our lives. We currently do it about once or twice a week but right now we haven’t in about 2 weeks and I’m going a little insane. To be fair there have been very justifiable reasons for this which I won’t go into but it’s just adding to an already major problem. I feel like I should not need to initiate most of the time like i have been lately and all of this is really effecting my self esteem 🙁
We are currently in the process of getting my engagement ring made (not engaged yet; he will propose when he is ready with my finished ring) which is a step he initiated so it’s not as though he doesn’t want to be with me. He is also the perfect man in every way except this!!
The only reasoning I can attribute this to on his part is the fact that he works afternoon shift and may always be tired. He often won’t be home until 12am although it can be earlier or later and I have a normal 9-5 job. I only get to spend proper time with him on Saturday. We are doing well financially so that is not an added stressor, at least I believe not.
I’m at a bit of a loss as to what to do. We have spoken about it before as this has been a problem for about half a year now and I think doing so only made it worse as he said it put him under pressure. I stopped trying and things did get better but now we’re back at square one. I would never cheat on him but like I said this is effecting me quite badly to the point where I sometimes feel resentment.
Does anyone have any advice for this or experienced it themselves?
Thank you so much xx