- 2 years ago
- Wedding: October 2017
A few weeks ago I discovered my partner was talking most daily or every couple of days with a female friend. Not flirting per se, but complimenting and flattering her, sharing hopes and dreams, personal stresses etc. He also met up with her (along with a few other friends she asked to meet them) and when I asked who he met didn’t tell me her name as though she wasn’t there.
This was a huge problem and we had multiple conversations about honesty and why he felt the need to talk to another woman so often. Afterwards he contacted her, saying he would be taking a step back as he felt the friendship has got too intense for a man in a committed relationship and that he was going to focus on us now. The woman accepted it.
Now soon after I find out he is talking daily or every couple of days with another woman (who he at first said he ‘barely’ knew). He has been sharing his worries about the relationship with her, talking about how much he wants to remedy hurting me etc. He asks how her day and week are going regularly and she seems to know all the little details of our lives together.
Again I asked him about it and he said she is good with advice. He broke down in tears, saying he couldn’t seem to stop attention seeking online. He has now phoned a doctor who is going to issue a letter for him to speak with a counsellor.
before all this I wanted to marry this man and he said he sees me as his life partner also. I feel so calm and happy when I’m with him, love him with every fiber of my being. But these close female friendships make me feel not good enough. What are your thoughts?