(Closed) partners ex as our bridesmaid?

posted 6 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 3
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: January 2013

I wouldn’t worry about what anyone would think, it sounds like their relationship was nothing. If you want her as a Bridesmaid or Best Man, ask her!

Post # 4
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

it sounds like your friendship with her is much, much more important to you than their brief relationship was to either of them, so that’s what really matters. but if it really makes you uncomfortable, then don’t feel you’re obligated to have her up there.

Post # 5
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

I once kept the guestbook for an ex’s wedding. I was in the narthex of the church, holding the pen out as people walked in, and it was a little confusing for some of his friends who hadn’t seen me since he and I had broken up a few years before – but in a funny way.

He and I had stayed friends and I’d become friends with his fiancee from when they first started dating, and she said “screw the awkwardness – you’re my friend!” when she asked me.

Post # 6
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

one of my friend’s best man was the ex of his bride.  They were together a LONG time, very serious.  It still disn’t bother anyone, they are all good friends.  Unless your hubby hates her, but I don’t see any problem.

 

Post # 7
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

Are you uncomfortable b/c of her itself or the fact of what others will say/think? If you guys are friends I would include her.

Post # 8
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 2012

My fiance’s best “man” is his ex-girlfriend. They were together for over a year, back around ten years ago. They were close friends before, and after the relationship (both realized they shouldn’t have ever dated in the first place, and were abe to continue as friends). 

He was worried about his family’s reaction to it. I explained that it is his decision, and I had no problem with it at all (I was the one who suggested her in the first place). 

Go for it. If anyone complains, explain she is YOUR friend and you don’t have a problem with the past, so they shouldn’t either. 

Post # 9
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

Hey you just made me realize that one of my BMs is my FI’s ex too!  I seriously didn’t even think about it because they dated soooo long ago for so short of a time.  Honestly, I don’t think it matters at all – she’s your friend and it’s clear who he’s marrying!

Post # 10
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

Forget what everyone else thinks. If you think she is important enough in your life to include her and your partner is on board, then go for it!

Post # 11
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

Hahaha I have the SAME THING!!!

 

Except he actually dated her in grade 7! Don’t put any thought into it- and making her walk with someone else will just draw more attention to it!

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