- 6 years ago
- Wedding: July 2012
Hi Bees! I need some advice from you all, please!
Basically, Fiance and I decided on a no stripper policy for both of our bach/bachelorette parties.
FI’s best man actually approached me a few months ago and asked me how I felt about strippers at his party, and I explained to him that Fiance and I have both decided on no strippers. He said, “well it’s just something that guys do for fun, but I’ll respect your decision.” and we left it at that.
Well, last week, Fiance and I heard from a few mutual friends that his best man is booking private strippers to come to the hotel room at the party.
I was really thrown off by this, because we had already discussed it. You know?
Well my maid of honor and FI’s best man are great friends, so she talked to him and asked if he’d be interested in having a joint bachelor/bachelorette party. He said that would be okay.
SO Fiance and I sat down and figured out what we would like our party to be like. Last night we messaged his best man, and told him what we would both enjoy.
He just responded this morning with, “Well, ultimately, I would like to discuss this with the rest of the guys, as well as just ‘your fiance’. Being completely honest, i was given a responsibility that I would like to fulfill by being the best man and would like to have some part of the planning. In no way shape or form am I trying to step on any toes, but this is just how im feeling. I would like to plan this party myself. We will talk soon.”
Now, again, Fiance and I are back to being worried about this whole thing.
What should we do in this position? Let his best man go ahead and plan his thing? Or put our foot down?
Side note: I am sure some of you will think the ‘no stripper policy’ is very trivial. However, it is something that is important to both myself, and my Fiance. So please, be respectful.