Post # 1
We have decided to elope to New York in 3 weeks literally just now we booked the flights today and the hotel (a treat to ourselves)
But we do want some sort of celebration with family after back home
Is there a correct way to go about this? invites? locations? what can we can and can’t do?
I don’t want people to think we are having our cake and eating it to but do want to have some sort of party/celebration
Post # 3
I think a lot of people do this. Just send out invitations like you normally would for a wedding but just have it be “Celebrating the marriage of Mr. & Mrs. Larlarbug”. You could put on the invite something like “The bride and groom were so excited to become husband and wife that they decided to elope in New York! Now they are back and want to celebrate with their closest family and friends!”. Not necessary but it could tell people what’s going on.
As for all the details, pretty much everything you would need for a reception. Could be super laid back though. Just depends on what you want. Good luck! Sounds awesome!
Post # 4
My Mother-In-Law threw a party for us on our first anniversary. People gave unexpected gifts of money, we had a slab cake and we received good wishes and hugs. I would have made it fancier, but I let my Mother-In-Law plan it because it was her idea and we eloped. I am grateful that my Mother-In-Law planned a gathering for us, even if it planned the way I would have done it. The food was cooked by my husband’s family and my Mother-In-Law rented a hall. It was lovely.
Post # 5
@larlarbug: Yes, you can do this. I wouldn’t re-wear my gown, but show it to people if they ask. You can have it casual back yard kind of thing, or you can rent a venue. Invitations would be nice.
We had a super casual party one month after we married. HOWEVER, this was really supposed to be my graduation party and we just rolled it all into one (graduation, marriage, new deck, fall is coming) party. I had been saying for 5 years I was going to have a party once I graduated and I told just about everyone! This party – I did not want it to be wedding-y so people felt like they had to bring gifts. I made it a potluck where I provded the main dishes and all the alcohol and people brought sides or desserts. I used evite.com to convey the casualness of it all and only had a week to plan it.
Post # 6
My husband and I got married 3 weeks ago in what I call a destination wedding for 2! While people knew we were going off to get married, we did not invite any guests. We are having a party in a few weeks with family and friends. It is perfectly acceptable to do and aside from a few comments here and there from people who wanted to be at the wedding, the idea has been very well received (in fact many people have told me if they had to do it over again, they would go this route . . . ). We sent out invitations which basically announced that we were getting married on such and such a date in a private ceremony and listed the location – then it said that we invited them to celebrate with us on our return at a cocktail, dinner, and dancing reception. We have rented out a restaurant. For whatever reason, the planning of that seems to me to be so much less stressful than planning a big wedding – I guess I just feel like the pressure is off and we can just relax and enjoy ourselves and not be stressed/nervous! I am actually wearing my wedding dress – at least for a little bit – mainly because my mom really wants me to and a lot of other people asked me about it. Otherwise, we arne’t doing the traditional wedding reception stuff like cutting cake, etc . . . We are going to do a first dance – mainly just to get the dance party started! Best of luck with your elopement. I loved every minute of mine and wouldn’t change a thing!