(Closed) Party for uninvited guests…Opinions?

posted 8 years ago in Parties
Post # 3
Hostess
18643 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2009

I think that if you are going to do this it should be after the wedding just so there isn’t any confusion about whether or not they are going to be invited to the wedding.  Otherwise, it shoulds like a great idea.  I just have one question: Do you have enough money to pay for this party?  Because otherwise that defeats the purpose.

Post # 4
Hostess
16213 posts
Honey Beekeeper

Cassied: Your heart is in the right place and I completely understand where you are coming from. I want to offer a few words of caution, though. It’s a very tricky area to try to recognize the friends who didn’t make the cut because it calls attention to the fact that they didn’t make the cut. I know you did not cut anyone for malicious means and that you are having a smaller guest list, and I do think your friends will understand that. But generally speaking, all wedding-y parties should only have guests who are also invited to the wedding.

Partly, this is because you don’t want to look like you are fishing for gifts from people who were not invited to attend the ceremony. If you were to indicate that it is a NO GIFTS “All we require is your presence” that may make it a bit more palatable.

How many people did you want to have to this mini-reception? Could you turn it into a series of dinner parties or something? I’m just afraid that your very good intentions could be interpreted incorrectly by someone, and we don’t want any hurt feelings. 🙂

Post # 5
Member
1638 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

I think a party after the wedding is a great idea. I know that if I was invited to an engagement party but not the wedding I would be ticked. So just plan for it after the wedding and make sure to tell guests that they should bring no gifts. That way they don’t feel like you didn’t invite them to the wedding but now want a gift after the fact.

Post # 7
Hostess
16213 posts
Honey Beekeeper

Don’t feel guilty. They understand. Your casual bbq sounds fun…like we said, just make sure no one things they are to bring gifts! Otherwise I am sure your friends would enjoy the chance to see you once you become a Mrs!!!

Post # 8
Member
115 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

I think I wouldn’t even mention that this party is wedding related at all. Just send invites for a barbecue or housewarming party after the wedding & invite whomever you want. Then you’ll avoid the suspicion of seeking gifts from non-wedding invitees, plus byob becomes much more appropriate for that type of festivity!

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