Post # 1
i found out today that my dad cant make it to our wedding and gea offering me money instead (the money he wouldve used to go). I dont know if i can afford a honeymoon. should I use the money for that, or should I use the money to throw a “reception” or small get-together at a park and make a mini-wedding out of it so he can go?
Post # 3
@leporidae: Honestly, I think you should opt for the one that you and your Fiance want more. Everyone is different – I’d go for the one that will make you guys happier!
Post # 4
Ok, lets recap.
Dad can’t come to the Wedding you have planned. So you are asking if the money he’s giving to you, should be used towards (a) Mini-Reception that he can attend (be that at a different time / date… or location… such as a different city where he perhaps lives)… OR (b) use the money to go on a Honeymoon
If those are the choices.
Then I’d opt to spend the time with your Dad, Friends & Family.
Truthfully when it comes to a Marriage (Wedding) neither a Reception / Party or a Honeymoon are REQUIRED elements. But they are both nice things to have.
In reality, I’d say that Family is a bigger element than time alone with your sweetie (cause you’ll get some of that no matter what). Lots of couples have 1 Night Honeymoons, or Belated Honeymoons at another time when they have the money to do so… not unheard of to have a Honeymoon happen weeks, months or years later.
BUT it is far more difficult to “reconnect” with the feelings that come about due to a Marriage in the family … and being able to share that with your Loved Ones (even if somewhat delayed… by days or weeks if need be) is really special. Something in my mind that you don’t really get a do-over on (months or years later).
Hope this helps,
PS… And sadly Dads don’t live forever… this could certainly be one memory that you will cherish a lifetime. I don’t think you should let it slip away, and miss out… particularly so if you are young and this is your First Wedding / Marriage. (Encore Brides, I’d say their situations are vastly different… and would probably use the money for a Honeymoon)