(Closed) Reception to end at 9pm… is that too early? HELP!

posted 8 years ago in Reception
  • poll: Would you think it was weird if a wedding you went to ended at 9pm?
    Yes, I'd be sad.....9pm is when the party's just getting good. : (11 votes)
    34 %
    No, as long as there was an after party. : (8 votes)
    25 %
    No, I'd be happy because I could get home for the 4th of July the next day. : (12 votes)
    38 %
    Yes/no/Other, explain below. : (1 votes)
    3 %
  • Post # 3
    1103 posts
    Bumble bee

    9pm sounds ok to me if you can arrange an after party. You could even skip the drinking/dancing part of the night if you wanted – cut the cake etc about 8.45 then tell everyone you’ll see them at the after party for dancing 🙂 Then you aren’t interrupting the party as much. There were a few older guests at our wedding (and parents of young children) who would have been ready to leave by 9pm anyway.

    I’d be more worried about “clean up by 10pm” – does that mean you and/or your guests are going to have to clean up??? That sounds like a bigger downer to me!!!

    Post # 4
    3126 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: December 2017

    If you want lawn games, isn’t that more of a daytime/afternoon activity anyway? I think an earlier start time sounds perfect. An afterparty would be nice if you want to keep it going, but I dont think its neccessary.

    Post # 5
    376 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: October 2010

    For most people 9p won’t be too early. People driving home, with kids, older family members, etc won’t care that it ends at 9 and frankly might be thankful that they don’t have to worry about missing any fun or seeming rude by leaving “early”. 

    Yes, some people will just be getting going by 9pm, but those people will also be happy with a designated “after party”. Have a sign or something else that lets people know where they can go post reception to further enjoy the party. 

    Post # 6
    1810 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: April 2011

    I think 9pm end time sounds perfect, and if you want to do the after party, by all means, do it. FH & I aren’t super big partiers, and 4th of July is a big day at our house, we’d probably skip the after party and head home.  

    Post # 7
    2634 posts
    Sugar bee

    I think that fact that your wedding is going to be on a Sunday makes a 9pm end time perfectly fine.

    Post # 8
    9029 posts
    Buzzing Beekeeper
    • Wedding: June 2011

    what time is the reception going to start? in my crowd 9pm is a bit early.. but we dont start receptions till about 6 or 7

    Post # 9
    499 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: April 2011

    Honestly, I think earlier weddings and receptions are fine. There seems to be a huge push for evening events now, but for lawn games and outdoor fun, I think an afternoon is actually ideal for your event. You could start at about 3:00 and it would be perfect!

    Post # 12
    3344 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: August 2010

    Our reception will end at 8:30 (2 pm church ceremony) if that makes you feel any better.

    Post # 13
    2788 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: January 2011

    I don’t think it is too early at all – your guests will be at the wedding from (at least) 245 in the afternoon to after 9 at night! That is a long time.  I think that having an option of an after party is a nice option for those who want to continue to party.  People who think that 9 pm is too early may not appreciate how early your party is going to begin!

    Post # 14
    3 posts
    • Wedding: May 2011

    I think 9pm on a Sunday is fine.

    My wedding is a Sunday and it’s ending at 10pm, and some people expressed that they won’t be able to stay until it’s all over, because it being on a Sunday.

    If it were a Saturday, I may feel differently. But I think you’re good on this one!! =0)

    Good luck with the venue hunt!

    Post # 15
    78 posts
    Worker bee
    • Wedding: October 2010 - Parents' backyard

    We are gonna end by 9PM, on a Saturday to boot. I think it’s fine. Especially if you are not the party type. We are only having 50 people at our wedding and I think more than half will want to go home after the cake is cut- no dancing, drinking, after party, whatever. If anyone wants to stick around we will be having lawn games and maybe going to the neighborhood bar since our wedding is in my parent’s backyard!

    Since my wedding is also ending at 9 PM, I never really “got” that culture of staying out all night for a wedding. Damnit I like to be in bed by 11!

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