(Closed) Passin’ on the STDs.

posted 6 years ago in Paper
  • poll: Are STDs Necessary
    Of Course they are *Gasp* : (4 votes)
    12 %
    Nope : (29 votes)
    85 %
    Got them because various Wedding websites and magazines said you needed them : (1 votes)
    3 %
  • Post # 3
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: May 2012

    I think STD’s are necessary if you are getting married around a holiday or if you have a lot of out of town guests. People like to have a heads up to plan for travel and to make sure they don’t have any conflicting events. If your wedding has mostly local guests and it’s not on a busy weekend, you should be fine. 

    Post # 4
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    Honey bee
    • Wedding: September 2014

    @classyclassicsgirl:  I’m still a waiting bee, but I have thought about this. Something tells me my mother is going to demand having them. However, I think it’s just another thing people tell you you need so you spend more. I understand using them if you are doing a destination wedding, perhaps, or have a lot of people coming from far away, or are having a huge wedding guest wise, but I imagine that those important to us (friends and family) that are certainly invited, will be aware of the date well before the formal invitation arrives to make plans. However, the majority of our guests I think will be local to the venue, so I don’t see why more than 6-8 weeks would be necessary to plan ahead! Just my 2 cents though. I don’t look down on anyone doing them, I’d just rather use that money in other ways.

    Post # 5
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    2819 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: February 2013

    I don’t think they’re necessary & wasn’t planning on having them (thought they were quite silly actually!), but since everyone except for immediate family (parents, siblings, and two out of four grandparents) is Out of Town, we decided to go with them to allow for people to arrange holiday plans.

    Post # 6
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    927 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: September 2012

    We chose not to send out STD’s. Even though our wedding is over a long weekend and out of town, it is quite small and everyone who is invited already knows about it. The only annoying thing is that Mother-In-Law is bugging us to send out invitations ASAP.

    Post # 7
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    7609 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper

    We didn’t think they were necessary and left them out of the plans.

    Post # 8
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    2233 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: September 2012

    Love the title of this thread. 

    We didn’t send them out. We have a fairly small guest list (110) and everyone pretty much knows where and when the wedding is already. Anyone having to travel I have been in touch with anyway. 

    Post # 9
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    869 posts
    Busy bee

    We sent our save the dates 5 months ahead of time, because most of our guests live out of town (and would need to book a flight to attend our wedding).  However, we won’t be sending invites.  We noted our wedding website on our save the date, for all the details and how to RSVP online.  For the 2 older couples wihtout the internet, we printed the website info out separately and sent it to them.  It seems to be working so far. 😉  We’ll see.

    Post # 10
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    9056 posts
    Buzzing Beekeeper
    • Wedding: June 2010

    I think they were useful as we had a summer wedding with a lot of out of town guests. Many people who have jobs with largecompanies have to submit vacation plans right at the beginning of the year and I found the verbal communication that followed guests receiving them really helped in budgeting overall. We invited 146 people and ended up with 82 guests so it was great to know right away that we didn’t have to budget for 146 meals, or that we could invite more of our friends since many of the regrets were obligatory long distance extended family.  I probably would have just circulated the info verbally but I was sending out Xmas cards anyway so I just printed out and embossed a flourish motif on business card size card stock. Maybe 5 bucks for the whole project and postage I was buying anyway. 

    Post # 11
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    949 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: August 2012

    Excellent title. I’m of the “naw, they’re not necessary” camp, but we sent out email ones, which served the purpose of getting it on calendars and making us make sure we had our guest list sorted out. We have only one couple without internet, and honestly they are a courtesy invite and legitimately unlikely to come, so we just didn’t send them one. Possibly iffy, but expedient.

    Post # 12
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    4336 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: October 2011

    We were only engaged for 7 months, so we would have had to scurry to get Save-The-Date Cards together. Instead, we just had our mothers email their relatives casually letting them know the date. It worked great for us. I figured that anyone that I *really* wanted at the wedding would be there b/c they would know the date far enough in advance, and everyone else I wouldn’t be heart broken if they couldn come b/c they didnt know the date early enough in advance. (I mean, we sent the invitations out 2 months prior to the wedding, and I doubt that it would have made a difference to anyone if they had known the date 6 months before! People aren’t going to change their plans of when they want to fly to Europe instead of going to our wedding!) We invited ~270 people and had 200 attend.

    Post # 13
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    2947 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: March 2012

    They were necessary for us because 99% of our guests are from out of town.

    Post # 15
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    1676 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: June 2011

    I don’t think they’re necessary, and many brides I know haven’t sent them. I think the email Save-The-Date Cards are a great idea. They would be much more cost efficient and quick. 

    Post # 16
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: May 2012

    @classyclassicsgirl:  I’ve never seen a STD with registry info on it. I also don’t think it’s proper to put your registry info on your wedding invitation. If you want people to know where you’re registered, you can add it you your wedding website or have family and friends pass the info around.

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