(Closed) passing bouquet rather than throwing

posted 3 years ago in Ceremony
Post # 2
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: June 2015

As someone who had to wait for a proposal longer than was reasonable, don’t do it. By all means give her the bouquet and express your excitement for your new niece/nephew. But don’t make it an awkward hint that they need to be married. I’d probably burst into tears. He could be humiliated. You may know why they haven’t made that decision already, or maybe she’s not telling you everything. Play it safe.

Post # 3
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: February 2016

I would never embarrass someone I love in that manner, especially in the middle of my own wedding.

You may get some awkward laughs from people, but in the end it makes you look rude, intrusive and passive aggressive.  

Post # 4
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Blushing bee

Yeah, that’s a bit too pushy. I’d hand it to her and maybe say something about how she and her boyfriend have a wonderful relationship and you’re happy that they’re adding to their family or something similar, but I think silent and very obvious eye contact will probably just make everyone there very uncomfortable.

Post # 5
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2014

Yeah, nope. Your wedding is not your place to weigh in on your sister’s relationship. 

Post # 6
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Buzzing bee

Please don’t, that is so awkward. It would come off like you’re shaming her for being pregnant and unmarried, which I’m sure is not what you want.

Post # 7
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2010 posts
Buzzing bee

That seems really rude.  

Post # 9
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: April 2017

nykkee :  Please don’t do this!  The whole thing sounds cringy worthy!  I would be so embarrassed if my older sister did something like that.  Plus with such a small group, it’s going to be really obvious to everyone what you’re trying to say.  I get you care about her but you need to stay out of it.

Post # 10
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2015

This sounds sad. I wouldn’t do it. The day is about you and your fiance/husband, not your sister’s boyfriend’s inability to commit to her through marriage.

Post # 11
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: June 2018 - The Garrison, NY

If your mother is still alive, then he doesn’t need your blessing.  That is irrelevant and quite honestly, sounds ridiculous.  Honestly, this is just tacky and I would feel horrible about it if I were your sister.  Not to mention, he probably won’t feel very great about you being so pushy either.  You are not part of their relationship, so you really should not be butting in like that.

Post # 12
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1300 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2016

Please don’t do this. I cringed just reading about it. Extended eye contact with a nod? I can’t picture that not being weird and creepy.

Post # 13
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2017

Thats creepy AF.

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Post # 14
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: February 2016

nykkee :  Even if you feel it’s your right or job, your wedding is not the place for grandstanding.

Post # 15
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2016

Thats really rude, don’t do it- their relationship is between them and not you. What you are suggesting is WILDLY inappropriate and if I were him, it would make me feel less inclined to want you as a sister-in-law.

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