Post # 1
We are just having a small backyard wedding, maximum 30 guests, likely less. My sister will be my moh, not having bridesmaids. When it is time to throw the bouquet I intend to simply hand it to my sister, who will be very pregnant with her second child, and then make extended eye contact with her boyfriend and nod. I told her I was going to do something like this and she just laughed. Is this too pushy? I’m probably going to do it regardless but I’m just wondering what you guys think. ☺
Post # 2
As someone who had to wait for a proposal longer than was reasonable, don’t do it. By all means give her the bouquet and express your excitement for your new niece/nephew. But don’t make it an awkward hint that they need to be married. I’d probably burst into tears. He could be humiliated. You may know why they haven’t made that decision already, or maybe she’s not telling you everything. Play it safe.
Post # 3
I would never embarrass someone I love in that manner, especially in the middle of my own wedding.
You may get some awkward laughs from people, but in the end it makes you look rude, intrusive and passive aggressive.
Post # 4
Yeah, that’s a bit too pushy. I’d hand it to her and maybe say something about how she and her boyfriend have a wonderful relationship and you’re happy that they’re adding to their family or something similar, but I think silent and very obvious eye contact will probably just make everyone there very uncomfortable.
Post # 5
Yeah, nope. Your wedding is not your place to weigh in on your sister’s relationship.
Post # 6
Please don’t, that is so awkward. It would come off like you’re shaming her for being pregnant and unmarried, which I’m sure is not what you want.
Post # 8
😣 she says they actively discuss it and is very outspoken, like she’d have no problem telling me “no don’t do that” but she just laughed. I know it’s passive agressive, lol, I’m comfortable with that. I don’t know. I feel like as the older sister, and with our father no longer around its my right or my job to be a little pushy when it comes to things I want for my younger sister. I’ll discuss it further with her I guess and only do it if she thinks it cute. I was picturing it as a somewhat blatant but still well intended “just so you know, you have my blessing”
I don’t judge her at all, my feelings towards the situation are “Hey bf, look at how amazing my sister is and all that she’s given you, how could you not want her forever? So tell the world!”
Post # 9
nykkee : Please don’t do this! The whole thing sounds cringy worthy! I would be so embarrassed if my older sister did something like that. Plus with such a small group, it’s going to be really obvious to everyone what you’re trying to say. I get you care about her but you need to stay out of it.
Post # 10
This sounds sad. I wouldn’t do it. The day is about you and your fiance/husband, not your sister’s boyfriend’s inability to commit to her through marriage.
Post # 11
- Wedding: June 2018 - The Garrison, NY
If your mother is still alive, then he doesn’t need your blessing. That is irrelevant and quite honestly, sounds ridiculous. Honestly, this is just tacky and I would feel horrible about it if I were your sister. Not to mention, he probably won’t feel very great about you being so pushy either. You are not part of their relationship, so you really should not be butting in like that.
Post # 12
Please don’t do this. I cringed just reading about it. Extended eye contact with a nod? I can’t picture that not being weird and creepy.
Post # 14
nykkee : Even if you feel it’s your right or job, your wedding is not the place for grandstanding.
Post # 15
Thats really rude, don’t do it- their relationship is between them and not you. What you are suggesting is WILDLY inappropriate and if I were him, it would make me feel less inclined to want you as a sister-in-law.