Post # 1
This whole moissy vs diamond thing has been going on so long, but I’m curious as to how people feel about this topic since I haven’t seen a thread about this yet.
To me, whatever you choose, as long as you are confident in your choice, is perfectly fine. If you choose an aquamarine, a white sapphire, a blue sapphire, a moissy, a diamond, whatever… for whatever your reason is, as long as you stand up and own up it it, it’s completely respectable. The world would be a pretty boring place if we all wanted and got exactly the same thing!
If you lying about it to pass it off, I just have no respect for that. The arguement always goes, it doesnt hurt you or anyone, so why does it even matter and why should anyone care. True – it doesn’t hurt me, and I probably don’t care anyways since it’s your ring and not mine, but I just dont have much respect for deceit and dishonesty.
Post # 3
If I had a moissanite, I wouldn’t lie about it to pass it off as a diamond. If people asked about the stone, I would freely tell them it’s a moissanite. If they said nothing, I wouldn’t feel the need to tell them. Nobody’s business but mine.
Post # 4
I wouldn’t think that it would come up in discussion all that often. If my stone was moissanite and I was asked pointedly “Is that a diamond?” I would tell the truth. If someone looked at it and said “Is that real?” I would say yes because it is in fact real and leave it at that. Not because I want them to think it is a diamond, but because it is a short direct answer and I would be irritated by being asked “Is it real”. Dishonesty irritates me to. I wish it irritated more people.
Post # 5
The is it real and is it a diamond question is strange to me! I can’t believe that people actually get asked that or that they would ask it!
Post # 6
I was asked the other day how come I always wear that ring on my left hand. When I answered that it was my engagement ring, I was flatly told that it couldn’t be, because it’s black.
I guess what I’m trying to say is that I’d rather people know that it’s an engagement ring than that it’s x type of stone. The stone doesn’t matter, the symbol does.
Post # 7
I think it’s really funny and rather petty that anyone else cares that much about someone else’s stone. If someone is lying about it… what’s it to you? They’re lying. Who cares?
Post # 8
I could care less. I am sure we all have lied about one thing or another over the years.
Post # 9
I don’t think the information needs to be volunteered, but if I had one and someone asked me straight up if it was a diamond, I wouldn’t be able to lie. If they asked if it was real, I would probably tell them that it wasn’t an appropriate question to ask someone. I think that lying is really petty and if you’re a grown up than I think that you’re old enough to own up to your choices. After a certain age, I think that lying to impress/please others is really silly. So I guess it would bother me if someone else did it too…plus if I knew otherwise (that it was moissy, not diamond), it would kind of turn me off that someone was acting so insecure.
Post # 10
Is there even a polite way to ask someone if their jewels are “real”? No one has any obligation to answer rude questions about themself, if someone did ask.
I’ve also never had anyone volunteer that their ring was real or otherwise, although it has been implied when people have talked about size or clarity. Giving out diamond stats seems in bad taste…pretty akin to discussing your salary, IMO.
Post # 11
If we had gotten one, I would consider lying about it to one or two super judgemental people in my life.
Post # 12
I will one day have a 3 carat moissy halo ring, and while I am perfectly fine with having a non-diamond engagement ring for several purposes, I feel that many others frown upon it. Being a college students, my boyfriend and I could never afford a diamond, and even if we could I wouldn’t feel comfortable justifying the cost of a diamond when moissanite is so much less expensive and ethical to produce. Given that my stone will be rather large, I think it would be pretty silly to lie about what the stone ACTUALLY is, which is why I won’t lie if directly asked, but I won’t simply offer up the info to random strangers. IMO, I think people who are offended by others “lying” about that their stone is, are simply people who want to feel better about what they own as opposed to a moissanite owner. In other words, most people who are offended by others passing off their moissy as diamond are people who own diamond and want to feel better than the moissy owner. IMO…
Post # 13
@Kat: You may be right about some people, but I am a diamond owner who is just offended by liars. What have we become when we feel like being a liar is okay?
Post # 14
Celebrate your choice to go with moissanite! It’s a beautiful stone. It may not be a diamond, but it’s still gorgeous & sparkly. 🙂
Post # 15
I really don’t care.
Yeah, lying is bad and blah blah blah, but come on. To be offended by lying when we’re talking about something like this sort of means you’ve got too much time on your hands to me.
Post # 16
@Melini:there is no polite way to ask. some people are just “different” I have a really nice ring that is a diamond and people ask me how much it cost, what is the carat weight? Spme people are just nosy (doessn’t matter if diamond or not)