(Closed) Passive Aggressive/Aggressive-Aggressive -Someone that just jumps on your back?

posted 6 years ago in Relationships
Post # 3
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Bee Keeper

I think that is your only solution. You can’t control how others behave and it sounds like she would be unwilling to consider herself a problem.

Post # 5
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

Though you rarely see her clearly her assholeish behavior really bothers you. Think of it this way though, her life must really, truly be miserable if she feels the need to be so competitive with you over stupid shit like this. Also, she is the ultimate master manipulator (or saying everything with a knowing smile) and truly knows how to get under your skin. I say the next time you see her try and beat her at her own game. When she challenges your memory I would say “it’s possible I’m mistaken on the details, oh well” or something along those lines. She will never let you win so as long as you diffuse a challenge it wont let her get the satisfaction that she wants.

Post # 6
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

I agree with both @BlondeMissMolly: &@MsNarwhal:. She’s clearly dissatisfied with something or jealous about something. If she can’t drop it and you can’t deal, then I’d say just avoid her. If seeing her is inevitable, then just let things slide and take away that power/control that she’s trying to get. ‘Let’s just agree to disagree’ and ‘I’m sorry that you feel that way’ can be your new mantras- she’ll get flustered/frustrated and either quit or look like a giant ass trying to get in your face about something you’re cool as a cucumber about.

Sorry that she’s like this to you. Just try to remember that it’s not about you, it’s about something that’s eating her.

Post # 7
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2016

You allways could just pretend she doesn’t exist.  My dad does that  he has a  really nasty sister. I don’t remember what the final straw was but I think she verbally attacked me when I was 8 years old. Now If they are in the same room he will do a ” nod” hello , to keep gmahappy, but if she speaks to him or about him it’s like shes not there.  It’s kinda fun to watch how mad she gets 

Post # 8
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

Yup- I think not being around her is a good solution.

Sometimes family sucks. 🙁

Post # 10
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Bee Keeper

@cbee:  You know what else works really well? Smile at her and say “I’ll have to think about that what a great point” or something so ridiculous and pc…really throws them for a loop! And without the negativity to thrive on, people like that usually stop. 

Im glad my first comment wasn’t too blunt! 

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