(Closed) Passsing off Moissanite as a Diamond

posted 10 years ago in Rings
Post # 32
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Buzzing bee

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@Miss Tattoo:Ahaha. Or the good ol’ If i tell you, I’m gonna have to kill you.

 

Hah! or you could poke ’em in the boob and say “is THAT real?”

Post # 34
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

LOL I’m getting a kick out of this thread and the jokes πŸ™‚

I guess I wouldn’t say anything if I were you.  I highly doubt that anyone would be rude enough to ask if it’s real, and if they do, and it’s a total stranger, why do you need to tell them anyway.

I would say, “I hope it’s real??  I never asked”… and leave it at that.. just pretend you assume it’s a diamond because your Fiance got it for you.  That would make it easier for me.

I have a 1 carat diamond, and I have small fingers, but no one has ever asked me if it is real, I would be baffled honestly, so I wouldn’t worry too much!!  Just say he got it on sale for a good deal lol.

Post # 35
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

I personally dont think anybody would ask if it was real or not?

I have never had anybody ask me the carat size, Clarity or anything of that nature. Honestly if someone other than your mom and best friend ask details its none of their business!!

Post # 36
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

Coming from a girl living in a traditional midwestern town, I also decided on a one carat moissanite. People’s jaws dropped when they saw it, because it’s sooooo sparkly and also because we’re two poor recent college graduates– and they knew there’s no way we could afford it. People would say things like, “oh my! That’s quite a ring.” I always said something like, “he had a little help from his grandma,” because she actually helped him pay for it. Do I tell everyone it’s a moissanite? No way. People don’t understand here. I have told all my close friends and some relatives. Ha ha I loved telling my materialistic cousin that it was originally found in a meteor and has twice the fire of a diamond. She seemed confused and actually held her giant rock up to mine to compare. It’s situations like that that make me not want to tell anyone else.

So I say, just be happy you have a gorgeous ring and let people assume whatever they want.

Post # 37
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

@4moissanite: (long post sorry)

People talk no matter what you have on your finger. If you got a diamond that had a giant inclusion in the middle or was microscopic or even gigantic there are always people who would talk negatively. Therefore, the fact that you are willing to lie about your moissanite because of people talking does not make sense to me. What it does make me think is that you sounds like you have the same mentality as everyone who is around you and you would be ashamed of the fact you have a moissanite to the point you are willing to lie about it. That’s plain silly. Moissanite is GORGEOUS and a gem in it’s own right and makes a beautiful engagement ring.

What you need to figure out is, are you going to be comfortable feeling that your engagement ring is something you are willing to lie to people about? Trust me, people WILL ask if it’s real or not because there are always tactless people out there. But lying about what it is, is just as wrong/rude as their asking you in the first place. IF you think there’s no way you can come out and say it’s a moissanite, then go to pricescope.com with your BF and find a 1 ct diamond of great quality that’s $3-4k (there are so many). Hell, go to Gemesis.com and get a lab made canary diamond. At least that way you dont have the burden of having to lie or pretend about the nature of the stone.

IF you choose to go with a moissanite and are comfortable with it 100% then OWN it baby! Tell anyone IF they ask (no reason give people unasked for lectures on the virtues of moissanites). Diamonds can’t shine like a moissy and why should you give them the credit of doing so?

Post # 38
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

Personally, I think you should OWN it!! I have a sapphire ring and have received maybe 2 or 3 comments like….oh, thats what you wanted?? And I was like…YESSSSSS!! And they shut up. If you feel so torn up about it, then maybe you should reevaluate and just get a smaller diamond that you two can afford. Just my 2 cents. 

Post # 39
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

LOL @ejs!!! And it’s nobodys business but your own!  You have to do what is right for you and your future hubby!  Unless someone else wants to pay for the diamond – you guys have to do what’s right for you and what makes you happy! πŸ™‚

Post # 40
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

No need to feel obligated to tell people the kind of stone you have! Like your co-worker, just says “thank you” when someone compliments the ring.

 

Post # 41
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

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@EffieTrinket: I competely agree with that.  I find myself always explaining myself as well.  I had a new dress pants from Ann Taylor that I paid $12 for on clearance and a girl complimented me on them and I had to explain that I got them off the clearance rack.. she’s like you don’t have to tell me that! My e-ring is on the larger side only because we were able to upgrade it (long story), but I feel the need to explain that as well.  I wish I could just say “thank you” and shut up when a compliment comes my way!  For some people, it’s very hard to do!

Post # 43
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

I have no opinions on Moissanite as a gem (other than it is crazy sparkly, which is always excellent). I think the bigger issue here is the rudeness of people who ask “Is it real?”

OP, you don’t actually have to answer a rude question. If someone asked you how much the ring COSTS, you more than likely would politely decline to comment. Asking if something is REAL is even ruder. It implies that a diamond is the only REAL thing, not the love, not the engagement, but the DIAMOND. I beg you, do not allow them to continue with this.  

My response would be “I’m not sure I understand, yes, it’s really my engagement ring” paired with a slightly dumbfounded look. Hopefully the person will get the message and drop it. Lather, rinse, repeat. 

If you want to tell them what it is, that is fine, especially if you want to put it out there that “Yes, it’s real Moissanite, and it’s fabulous!” but I just wanted to assert that you are never required by etiquette to answer a RUDE question.

Post # 44
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

@Rubies:   “I’m not sure I understand, yes, it’s really my engagement ring” paired with a slightly dumbfounded look.

I love that!! Nice. πŸ™‚

Post # 45
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2008

My guess is that nobody’s going to ask you if it’s a diamond or not.  People will probably assume it is a diamond.  If you get any comments on how beautiful your diamond is, just say thank you or own it and tell them it’s a moissanite.

Post # 46
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Buzzing bee

Something else to think about, people in small towns tend to “know” alot. If you are in a middle income bracket with what looks like a tens of thousands of dollars ring, people will probably assume it’s CZ. I’d rather have a Moissanite than a CZ, personally.

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