(Closed) Past Friend and Wedding Invite

posted 5 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
Member
1022 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

@missjewels:  I’d just not invite her. no need to tell her unless it comes up.

Post # 4
Member
1132 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

It sounds like you are having a small intimate wedding with mostly family, which is exactly what I would tell her, but only if she asks. No one should assume they are invited to your wedding unless they receive an invitation. You don’t need to invite her, though. 

Post # 5
Member
2842 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

You’re overthinking it.  You already answered it by saying, “I am not close enough with this girl to consider her one of the “must” friends I couldn’t imagine my day without”.  Don’t invite her and don’t give yourself grief over not inviting her. If she gets mad about it, then she’s childish and it won’t be that big of a loss to you in the long run.

Post # 6
Hostess
8584 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2014

Don’t invite her. If you aren’t close right now in your life, she doesn’t need an invite.

One of my childhood friends got married last year, we are on each others facebook and we liked the occasional status, and that’s about it! I wasn’t invited to her wedding, and that’s okay! I don’t expect to be! I just left some lovely comments on her pictures when she posted them and wished her a great honeymoon & marriage.

Post # 7
Member
256 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

@missjewels:  I had to deal with the exact same dilemma! They were my college friends – I spent a lot of time with them while we were in school but after we graduated we all went our separate ways and just talk to each other occasionally via email or coffee once in a while. I don’t consider them my close friends even if they are genuinely NICE people whom I like very much. 

Needless to say I won’t be inviting them to my very small and intimate wedding (I do feel kind of bad about it because I sometimes find myself purposefully distancing myself from them these days so that they don’t feel like they ought to get an invite…:S)  … anyhow the PPs gave some good insights/advice already!

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