Post # 1
Sorry, to put it straight. My pastor is p(#W$ing me off. He’s giving me all these restrictions to the photo/video guys for our wedding. It’s getting annoying. Everytime I call him, it’s something new.
Why are there so many restrictions for the photo/video guy during the ceremony?
Post # 3
I’ve never heard of these restrictions. What exactly is he listing?
Post # 4
@katieluvjoy: Because he doesn’t want the videographer to distract from the ceremony. I know you want a good documentation of your day, but I’ve been at weddings where the pastor DIDN’T give restrictions and I was seriously just watching the photographer run around the whole time. Your guests are there to see YOU and watch you commit your life to your partner. Your pastor is trying to make sure that stays the focus of the time you spend in his church.
Post # 5
@katieluvjoy: Mine had a LOT of restrictions, too! So it’s not uncommon.
Mine said that once the ceremony started, they had to stand against the back wall of the church!
My photog made sure to visit the church with the pastor and go over where he could/couldn’t be, and he took test shots to make sure all the pictures would come out amazing.
And they did!
Post # 6
It may be annoying, but this is probably a good thing. Videographers and photographers can get in the way of the guests and be a distraction to the pastor and everyone else.
The fact that he has so many restrictions likely means that he’s had some issues in the past with this and doesn’t want them to happen again.
Just remember, he deals with weddings all the time, so his suggestions are coming from experience.
Post # 7
This is the first I heard of such restrictions too! Our pastor didn’t give any, and we had two photographers and two videographers and I think they did an amazing job of capturing all our moments without disrupting the service!
If your pastor is finicky about the details, I guess its good that he tells you guys now so it doesnt end up like this ceremony did:
Post # 8
@katieluvjoy: Our pastor, who wasn’t even our pastor he was just marrying us, was annoying too.
During the rehearsal I told him I wanted a certain picture to be taken of us during our first kiss. For the photographer to take it the pastor would have to step aside for a moment. When I brought it up to him he said, “well… that would not be appropriate in a church” well we weren’t getting married in a church, you freakin’ idiot!!
I didn’t like this man in general though so maybe I’m a little harsh toward him haha
Post # 9
Ya I have to say I GET IT
The whole focus of the day should be that very brief time that you & “your intended” are standing up at the front of the Church before Friends, Family & God and making this sacred commitment to one another.
NOTHING SHOULD STAND IN THE WAY OF THAT
And nothing should take away from from those precious moments as they happen…
Even if that means foregoing “the perfect shot” on film
Trust me like other Bees I’ve been to Weddings where the Photographers & Videographers were annoying to the Guests
Never mind the Ceremony itself…
Standing at the Alter facing the Congregation, Behind the Pastor, almost coming between the Bride & Groom as they say their Vows
NO… JUST NO !!
Post # 10
This would bug me too. Who is he to say how your wedding goes? If you don’t mind photographers, then it should be your choice.
Post # 11
I find this to be an extremely annoying double standard. Anyone who thinks the pro photographers are a distraction to the ceremony should take a look at the GUESTS. What is more of a distraction, a photographer walking around the church discreetly taking pictures or your OWN device held up to your face as you try to capture the perfect shot yourself instead of being part of things? Where do these pastors get off telling these pro photographers to stand at the very back of a large chuch (twice as far away as the last row of guests) while the couples family member sitting in the front row has a camera up to their face and Aunt Sue is creeping out into the aisle with her Ipad. When officiants are really severe with their restrictions, ive considered hiring a second to dress as a guest and sit toward the front. THEY’d NEVER KNOW. Ive seen teams that do this too.
Anyway, long story short, I just feel like if you’re going to do it to photographers you should hold guests with cameras to the same standard, as they are far more of a hinderence/distraction to the ceremony, and they’re not just there trying to do their jobs like the photographers you paid are.
Post # 12
@PassionatePhotoLady: Where they get off is that it is their church and their rules. If you don’t like it you have the choice not to get married there or take the job.
Post # 13
@This Time Round: +1
Our pastor had restrictions and we also asked the photographer to not move around too much. I didn’t want to be distracted and as a guest I find it annoying when the video guy and photographer are flitting around distracting everyone. To me, the important thing during the ceremony was saying my vows and having my focus on my DH- I did not want to be distracted just to capture the “perfect picture.”
Post # 14
No, its rookie photo and video that made it that way. They have to make the rule for All photo and video to be fair. There are reasons why the pastor is doing this. Its actually very common in churches.
Post # 15
@j_jaye: except we never hear about these things in a booking meeting, and clients never curb their expectations of us when a pastor puts the shackles on us day of. Sure, i could leave a wedding when I find out… and probably get sued later… and the client can have no pro pics…Is this sounding like something youd want to happen at your wedding? Anyway, my point was simply that they shouldn’t be singling out and punishing the professionals when the guests are just as bad, if not worse. Some of them literally hate us before they even meet us, just for being “annoying photographers” yet if they tell the bride and groom they can’t have pictures there in advance, most will get married elsewhere, so instead they endeavor to make our jobs as difficult as possible..if it were about people being present and not “distracted” they’d be limiting the guests also, but again, it’s just us… Cause they hate us..
Post # 16
@PassionatePhotoLady: Wouldn’t you agree that as a professional you should find out these things like venue restrictions and if the client does not know you should get them to ask?
I guess we will haev to agree to disagree because in all the weddings I have attended I have never seen guest behave in the manner that photographer bees like to continually say they do.