(Closed) Patience is a [email protected]!

posted 3 years ago in Waiting
Post # 16
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Bee Keeper

I’m not going to say what I think about someone who talks about reserving the band he wants at his wedding reception but hasn’t even proposed yet.

Post # 17
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Blushing bee

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sunburn :  Yeah, call me a cynic but that smells like a stall tactic to me. But also take me with a grain of salt- I’m fresh out of a relationship with a staller sooooo. 

Post # 18
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Bumble Beekeeper

I didn’t know you could call dibs on wedding shit when you aren’t even engaged? 

Post # 20
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 2019

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newbee959 :  maybe you can get a discount on the band if they know you’re the reason they’re getting business! If it’s the same group of friends the same band might be more fun at your wedding the second time around, it would force the band to be more creative with their set. Imitation is the sincerest form of flattery! 

I am a waiting bee with a similar timeline as you! We started looking in the spring, it was delievered to our house in July and still no ring. Womp Womp. I have felt pretty proud of myself for being patient, afterall I did ask him to surprise me, but I had a melt down about it over labor day weekend & he assured me that there is a plan. He said two weeks which would be this weekend and I am excited but also alittle sour with myself for potenitally ruining the surprise. There is a part of me that hopes it won’t be this weekend, oh the rollercoaster of emotions we put ourselves on! 

I hope your time comes soon! 

Post # 21
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2019

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frenchtoastvegan :  OMG, I dont blame you for having the breakdown. MONTHS after the ring in hand would make me batty. I dont think you ruined anything and I hope you get it this weekend 🙂

Post # 22
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Bee Keeper

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mrstodd2bee :  “What’s to “enjoy” about being forced/expected to wait for something you want?  “

There you go, making sense again lol.

Post # 23
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2018

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newbee959 :  This was the exact summer I had before we got engaged. The only advice I can give is just to keep occupied with things that interest and challenge you. Reading, rock climbing, learning a new language. Stay busy, even in the car. Of course, enjoy the time you have together, but I do understand the need to put your mind on something else.

Post # 24
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 2019

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mel2 :  thank you! He isn’t being cruel, he just took it to heart that I wanted a surprise and I think that says alot about him. This saturday is the one year anniversary of closing on our house, so maybe then? Is that even a thing?! Thank you for making me feel better! 

Post # 25
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Newbee

Any update? I’m in the same position as you…I’ve ruined a number of special occasions and weekend trips thinking a proposal was coming and it didn’t. Probably almost every month of this year haha first May the month I graduated grad school (which used to be a preeequisite of his for engagement) then July during our annual 4th of July trip to cape cod. Then August during our end of the summer trip to the cape. September, October, November..you get the point.  After 4 years of dating, my boyfriend just picked out and paid for the ring this month so now I’m hoping for a Holiday proposal. Please give me some hope! Hahaha 

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Newbee

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newbee959 :  aw yay! Congratulations! That makes me really happy to hear. And thank you for saying that. I feel like a lot of responses I’ve got about waiting are to “just be patient and it’ll happen when it’s supposed to”. And to “enjoy being a girlfriend” It’s so much harder than that when you know he has the ring  haha and when you’ve been waiting for a long time. (And when you’re like us and still check for Christmas presents like you’re 12 😉) hahaha I look forward to my moment and will try to stay sane in the mean time. Congrats again and good luck wedding planning! 

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