Post # 1
I am losing my mind. Let’s begin: My boyfriend and I have been together for a little while now; right at 8 months. When we met we instantly fell in love. It seemed too good to be true. We moved in together and everything has been wonderful. Not too long ago we began talking about getting married. We started discussing when and where, etc. Monday we were at his dads and were discussing our loans with him. He told us that the kid to get married first would get their mothers engagement ring. His dad asked to borrow him and they went upstairs. Both came down teary eyed and borrow was a happy little honey bee and made sly remarks, basically saying he had the ring. I drilled some friends for details who told me he had the ring and was waiting for the right time but it wouldn’t be for a few months. We’re planning the wedding or this coming April 1st. (our first vacay together was 4/1/11 and we want to get married a year later.) I’ve asked him a few things about the proposal but began getting frustrated because I feel like everyone knows and I don’t. I know it’s supposed to be a surprise but I hate surprises! Hate them. No i dont want him to just give it to me but I’d like it soon! I feel like I can’t start really planning until I have it, even though I know it will. It’s just not real enough for me to start planning yet. I love this man to death but patience is a weakness of mine and he’s learning that. He said the longer I continue to try to figure things out the longer he will wait. There is only 9 months!! I know there some bees out there who have dealt with this. How did you deal?
Post # 3
I didn’t have to wait too long for my ring once I knew he had it so I can’t relate to how you’re feeling. What I can do is suggest that you find something to occupy your mind. Try to get wrapped up in something wedding related or maybe take a gander at the “Waiting” board for some extra support.
I know you said that you hate surprises, but he is probably planning something wonderful for you and trying to find the right time to do it. Try to stop asking your friends for details because that is only going to make your anxiety worse.
Best of luck! Let us know how the proposal goes when he does it!
Post # 4
You are a lof further along than me (and a lot of ladies on here)! I am waiting for my bf to save up and purchase a ring, so you’re in a much better situation! But I can only imagine how hard it is to wait knowing that he has the ring in his possession. I especially hate the part where it is completely up to him WHEN you get it! I’ll never understand the whole waiting thing when they already have the ring. I know I will feel just like you, impatient. Probably annoyed too, haha.
I would say to have a talk with him and agree on a date by which he will propose at the latest, to give you a sense of comfort. But I’m pretty sure most would advise against that as it defeats the purpose of him being the one to make the move. So maybe that’s being a bad girl 🙂
But once it happens you will look back on this and say, remember when I was so anxious! Just remind yourself that it is a sure thing, not to mention you got the man of your dreams 🙂
Post # 5
Just start saving money and thinking about the details. Don’t nag about the proposal! He has the ring, now chill out and enjoy your time together.
Post # 6
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Not to be rude, but you’ve been together less than a year. Chill out and enjoy the relationship as it unfolds 🙂
Post # 7
YOU KNOW YOUR GETTING IT! And you know roughly when he’s going to ask. So chill out woman and enjoy! 🙂
I’m jealous but sooo happy for you! Cheers!
Post # 8
There are so many things that I could point out here, but bottom line is you need to chill. Let everything happen, and stop pushing it.
Post # 9
Ditto to what has been said. Slow down! It will happen.
You’ve acknowledged patience is a rough area for you? You will need it oodles of times in marriage and life generally. Perhaps utilize this as an opportunity to work on having patience and keeping peaceful? Or focusing on you two as a couple, not a wedding. The latter is fun and all, but you’re marrying this man because you love and adore him, right? Keep that at the forefront of your mind and not the details — those will fall into place! The biggest part has been accomplished: you found someone to share your life with! Enjoy him and the relationship.