(Closed) Patience is not my strong point

posted 7 years ago in Waiting
Post # 3
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1962 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

I didn’t have to wait too long for my ring once I knew he had it so I can’t relate to how you’re feeling. What I can do is suggest that you find something to occupy your mind. Try to get wrapped up in something wedding related or maybe take a gander at the “Waiting” board for some extra support. 

I know you said that you hate surprises, but he is probably planning something wonderful for you and trying to find the right time to do it. Try to stop asking your friends for details because that is only going to make your anxiety worse.

Best of luck! Let us know how the proposal goes when he does it!

Post # 4
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2016

You are a lof further along than me (and a lot of ladies on here)! I am waiting for my bf to save up and purchase a ring, so you’re in a much better situation! But I can only imagine how hard it is to wait knowing that he has the ring in his possession. I especially hate the part where it is completely up to him WHEN you get it! I’ll never understand the whole waiting thing when they already have the ring. I know I will feel just like you, impatient. Probably annoyed too, haha.

I would say to have a talk with him and agree on a date by which he will propose at the latest, to give you a sense of comfort. But I’m pretty sure most would advise against that as it defeats the purpose of him being the one to make the move. So maybe that’s being a bad girl ๐Ÿ™‚

But once it happens you will look back on this and say, remember when I was so anxious! Just remind yourself that it is a sure thing, not to mention you got the man of your dreams ๐Ÿ™‚

Post # 5
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27 posts
Newbee

Just start saving money and thinking about the details.  Don’t nag about the proposal!  He has the ring, now chill out and enjoy your time together.  

Post # 6
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2013 - An amazing non-profit retreat

Not to be rude, but you’ve been together less than a year. Chill out and enjoy the relationship as it unfolds ๐Ÿ™‚

Post # 7
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147 posts
Blushing bee

YOU KNOW YOUR GETTING IT! And you know roughly when he’s going to ask. So chill out woman and enjoy! ๐Ÿ™‚

I’m jealous but sooo happy for you! Cheers! 

Post # 8
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369 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

There are so many things that I could point out here, but bottom line is you need to chill. Let everything happen, and stop pushing it.

Post # 9
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113 posts
Blushing bee

Ditto to what has been said. Slow down! It will happen. 

You’ve acknowledged patience is a rough area for you? You will need it oodles of times in marriage and life generally. Perhaps utilize this as an opportunity to work on having patience and keeping peaceful? Or focusing on you two as a couple, not a wedding. The latter is fun and all, but you’re marrying this man because you love and adore him, right? Keep that at the forefront of your mind and not the details — those will fall into place! The biggest part has been accomplished: you found someone to share your life with! Enjoy him and the relationship.

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