(Closed) Pay for BM "Spa Day?" And/Or BM Sleepover?

posted 6 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 3
5956 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: April 2018

I am a huge advocate of brides getting what they want, but I also support keeping things simple and avoiding excess whenever possible.  9 BM’s is a lot, logistically speaking, just getting them all in the same zip code at the same time would be a miracle.  

Having a wedding on a holiday weekend presents interesting challenges of their own design.  And my only advice is to consolidate for sanity.

if you want a sleepover, why not save some cash and headaches and rent a house instead. VRBO has great vacation rentals all over the country, it might be a better option.  And instead of buying breakfast, you can have muffins, coffee, fruit and mimosas ready to go with no cooking required.

I get wanting to pamper yourself before your big day, I honestly don’t know if getting that many ladies into a spa at the same time is even possible, let alone fun….what about  hiring a masseuse to come to you?  Or just throwing out the spa idea to make that optional attendance only?  

As BM’s and MOH’s, we want to make the bride’s day a special one, but when I see a long weekend of wedding centered activity ahead of me, I just have to ask, when is it enough?

Post # 4
3092 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

We’re doing something very similar. 

Our weekend wedding is at an Inn.  We are providing a two-night stay for the bridal party.  The inn also has a spa so we’re planning a spa day the day before the Rehearsal Dinner.  We aren’t doing any showers or a bachelorette/hens. 

So my Maid/Matron of Honor is helping to pool money for everyone to split the cost for the rooms for the extra night. 

This saved me some money so I could afford the massages for all the ladies.

Anyway, if you are super into this idea, I’d go the mani-pedi route and let the ladies pay for any additional services they’d like.  Then you can do a sort of spa party in the suite. 

Also, if you’re hosting your bm’s at a motel/hotel they might provide a continental breakfast.

Post # 5
467 posts
Helper bee

It is very nice of you to pay for your Bridesmaid or Best Man hotel stays.  I don’t think you need to give them a spa day in addition to their thank you gift and hotel expenses.  You might invite them to join you if they want.  I also don’t think anyone needs to know that you are paying for the MOH’s spa day.  I wouldn’t advertise it.  People can join or not according to their wishes.  🙂  

Post # 7
3092 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

@Hope_To_Be_MrsLovebug:  Our spa is giving us 15% off any spa treatments for our spa day.

The Inn is also giving us 15% off the room rates for that night.


Definitely ask!!!

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