Post # 1
Two of my bridesmaids live 2 hours away from my wedding ceremony location so I’m happy to pay for their accomodation for the night before.
However two other bridemaids live only 5-10 minutes drive away, but they’re also expecting accomodation. They keep assuming it’ll be like a party the night before, even though I made it clear I’m going to bed at 9pm in order to wakeup for hair and makeup at 4am(!!!) the next morning.
As much as I’d love to accomodate everyone, our wedding is also ona long weekend (national day) meaning accomodation costs 3 times more than usual!
Is the bride usually expected to provide accomodation for their bridal party and if so, for everyone in order for it to be fair to offer it to everyone?
Post # 3
If you and the out of town bridesmaids are all sharing a room the night before, then yeah, maybe I would expect that the other two bridesmaids would be getting a room too. But if the out of town girls are just going to their room and you’ll see them in the morning, then I wouldn’t think you need to provide accomodations for the other girls.
I haven’t had a bride pay for my accomodations. Some bride offer it as a gift, but it’s not an expectation, especially for local bridesmaids.
Post # 4
Are you sharing a room with the out-of-town BMs?
Post # 5
@paula1248: No I’ll be sharing a room with my cousin who is flying in a week before the wedding just to help me out. So I’m splashing out for the both of us.
The two bridesmaids whom live 2 hours away will be staying in a standard room in another hotel.
I don’t mind if I end up getting it as gifts but the maid-of-honour is really undecisive so the longer I leave it, the more likely only the more expensive rooms will be left. As well, does that mean I still have to get a token thankyou gift on top?
Post # 6
(Sorry, first answer deleted).
If the two other girls are staying at another hotel anyway, then I don’t see the point. And no, you don’t need to provide a room for girls who live in your town. That would be unusual since they have their own beds anyway 10 minutes away.
p.s. It’s quite normal to not provide accomodation for any travelling guests, so even by providing a hotel room for those 2 travelling BMs, you are doing something you don’t have to.
Post # 7
I’ve been in two bridal parties that were out of town and nothing was covered – which didn’t bother me and was not expected.
One thing that did kind of bother me was when my best friend got married on my birthday, I was in the bridal party, and I got two drink tickets like everyone else… I thought she could have given me an open tab at the bar (which is what I would have done in her shoes).
Post # 8
@paula1248: OK. Just feeling a bit of pressure that I’m expected to make something out of it, being the long weekend and all.
I’ll stick to my guns and tell them that the ones driving in can come an hour later for hair and makeup…trying to be the reasonable bride here!