- 10 years ago
- Wedding: December 2013
i just saw another post by someone who had an issue similar to mine and so i thought i would post my own to get advice (this website is SUCH a great place to get advice!).
I asked my good friend to officiate my destination wedding. originally, she was coming and paying her own flight and hotel no matter what as a guest….but now that her own engagement fell apart and she just opened her own private practice, she informed she is having financial issues. thing is, i really need her to come because she speaks french and my FIs family is french, so we were gonna do the ceremony half english and half french…the officiant provided by our resort is english.
so now so far i have offered to pay her plane ticket as her service payment (before when she didnt have money issues, it was going to be her gift to us). but she is still saying she is not sure yet and wants to wait to book because of her financuial situation. which is stressing me out that she is waiting! so i am thinking to offer 2 nights in a hotel on top of the flight? our wedding is in Jamaica, so 2 nights is not much of a vacation, as most other guests are staying a week. but she would get there the night before our wedding and stay the night of our wedding and leave the next day….should i be offering a third night so she can enjoy the trip more? already 2 nights and a flight will cost me like $800 – $900! something i did not factor in my budget at all, but i feel i have no choice and would have to spend money on someone to be there in french, so why not her!