(Closed) Pay or Don’t Pay?

posted 12 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 3
134 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: December 2008

I’ve always heard pay, but mostly in cases where you are requiring/requesting the bridesmaids to get their hair done (to have the same hairstyle or whatever).  Since you have given them the choice to opt out/find an alternative, I’d say you don’t have to pay.  However, I would find a polite way to let them know this in advance so they realize what is expected.  Maybe saying, "I really want us all to feel beautiful and pampered today, so I’ve sprung for a make-up artist, but everyone is resposible for their own hair or since I’ve done that, would hair on you be okay?"  Something like that.  Always begin and end with a good statement.  If they are your close friends and realize all you’ve already paid for, they will understand!  These expenses always come with being a bridesmaid.

Hope that helps! 

Post # 5
2408 posts
Buzzing bee

i’ve always done my own hair, even when we were asked for a general specific style [updo with curls…how that translated to each girl was solely up to us] and make up, well i had other friends do my make up because i didn’t own any – all the make up i have now came thanks to the weddings i was in. i think paying for their makeup is a very generous offer on your behalf. i agree with haselwand though, just let your bms know what you’re going to provide and that they’re free to go wherever for their hair. i’m positive that they’ll appreciate the gesture either way.

Post # 6
161 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: August 2008

I’ve always had to pay for grooming (hair/makeup) as a bridesmaid, which typically leads me to do it myself.  I am way more comfortable with this (because I often feel like one of marie osmond’s dolls when someone else does my makeup).  However, I feel like if you are one of those "everything has to be matching" brides, you should pay.  If you insist on a certain style or that everyone looks uniform, you should provide the means for that.  (obviously this is not the case for you). 

Post # 7
48 posts
  • Wedding: January 2019 - catherdral ceremony/private club reception

For us – makeup is covered (my cousin is a makeup artist), the bms are paying if they want an updo ($60), and I’m paying if they want a blowout ($30). 

They seem to be happy with that situation!  But honestly, I’ve always had to pay for my own hair (and do my own makeup!) as a bridsmaid, so I think mine are getting a pretty sweet deal…

Post # 8
311 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2008

I emailed my bridesmaid saying I found a hair/make-up artist for myself, sent them prices, and asked if they are interested.  It looks like all 3 of them are interested – even though they will be paying for it themselves.  I think as long as you are upfront and don’t require them to pay, it’s fine.

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