Pay when you rsvp?!

posted 2 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 2
533 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2017

Wow, I have never heard of a couple doing that before…I wouldn’t bother going to that wedding. I’d rather go to a cake/ punch reception that doesn’t have fees to attend. 

Post # 4
585 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2017


Post # 5
545 posts
Busy bee

Yeah, I’m right there with you, have whatever kind of wedding you want to have, but have it be in your means. If you can’t afford to buy your guests dinner there is nothing wrong with that, just don’t provide one and so something a little more simple.  I think asking them to pay for their own meal to attend your wedding is tacky personally. I can’t see myself wanting to attend a wedding where they asked me to. 

Post # 6
2332 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: January 2015


I wonder if even people like their  Grandparents were forced to cough up

Nana give me  $80 please for the privilege of seeing me wed

Post # 7
213 posts
Helper bee

I’m with the PP’s, asking someone to pay to come to your wedding is incredibly rude. I’m planning mine on a small budget and if it comes to it I’ll either reduce the guest list or go for a cheaper buffet/DIY reception idea. 

Post # 8
50 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: April 2017

Wow. That’s really bad. How much are they charging may I ask? Is it a particularly fancy venue?

Post # 9
3451 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: April 2017 - City, State

That’s so gross. Easy decline.

Post # 10
1539 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2018

I’d also want to know if they expect gifts on top of that.

Post # 11
865 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: March 2010

I’m also curious of the prices the “guests” have to pay. 

On one hand, paying for dinner could be significantly cheaper than paying for a gift. Since they said this is in place of gifts. And makes sense (maybe?) if they truly don’t need/want gifts (or people) to attend. Haha

On the other hand … hmmm. I’ve got nothing. I’m baffled! And I want more details. 😇

Post # 12
4570 posts
Honey bee

I hope your friend declines this rude tacky mess.  But part of me is curious how many people actually go along with it.  Just…ick.

Post # 13
1291 posts
Bumble bee

Hahahahahaha. Hard pass. 

Post # 14
1106 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2017

I’d be so curious to know how many people actually go vs how many were invited. I would not be attending this though lol

Post # 15
4100 posts
Honey bee

Is it awful that I wanna see a pic of this invite? 😂

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