Pay when you rsvp?!

posted 2 months ago in Etiquette
Post # 2
Member
651 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2017

Wow, I have never heard of a couple doing that before…I wouldn’t bother going to that wedding. I’d rather go to a cake/ punch reception that doesn’t have fees to attend. 

Post # 4
Member
619 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2017

IT’S HAPPENING. PEOPLE ARE SELLING TICKETS TO THEIR WEDDING. 

Post # 5
Member
654 posts
Busy bee

Yeah, I’m right there with you, have whatever kind of wedding you want to have, but have it be in your means. If you can’t afford to buy your guests dinner there is nothing wrong with that, just don’t provide one and so something a little more simple.  I think asking them to pay for their own meal to attend your wedding is tacky personally. I can’t see myself wanting to attend a wedding where they asked me to. 

Post # 6
Member
2387 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: January 2015

Woah

I wonder if even people like their  Grandparents were forced to cough up

Nana give me  $80 please for the privilege of seeing me wed

Post # 7
Member
48 posts
Newbee

I’m with the PP’s, asking someone to pay to come to your wedding is incredibly rude. I’m planning mine on a small budget and if it comes to it I’ll either reduce the guest list or go for a cheaper buffet/DIY reception idea. 

Post # 8
Member
26 posts
Newbee
  • Wedding: April 2017

Wow. That’s really bad. How much are they charging may I ask? Is it a particularly fancy venue?

Post # 9
Member
2464 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: April 2017

That’s so gross. Easy decline.

Post # 10
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1246 posts
Bumble bee

I’d also want to know if they expect gifts on top of that.

Post # 11
Member
788 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: March 2010

I’m also curious of the prices the “guests” have to pay. 

On one hand, paying for dinner could be significantly cheaper than paying for a gift. Since they said this is in place of gifts. And makes sense (maybe?) if they truly don’t need/want gifts (or people) to attend. Haha

On the other hand … hmmm. I’ve got nothing. I’m baffled! And I want more details. 😇

Post # 12
Member
1622 posts
Bumble bee

I hope your friend declines this rude tacky mess.  But part of me is curious how many people actually go along with it.  Just…ick.

Post # 13
Member
709 posts
Busy bee

Hahahahahaha. Hard pass. 

Post # 14
Member
226 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2017

I’d be so curious to know how many people actually go vs how many were invited. I would not be attending this though lol

Post # 15
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3702 posts
Sugar bee

Is it awful that I wanna see a pic of this invite? 😂

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