Post # 1
We are having a small wedding of less than 25 people. Guests will travel one hour by plane to get there. We are not covering travel costs.
We are considering booking out 3 beach front apartments all in the same block for our friends to stay in. We are also staying in this block. Some of our friends are couples, some are single, they’re all friends and know each other (they’re essentially our bridal party, though we’re not having one).
There is enough space in the apartments for all of them, with enough space for couples to have their own room (though one is two singles, not a double) and the remaining rooms have a few single beds and one double for friends to share.
If you were a guest. Would you be happy with this arrangement being decided for you? Would you prefer to book your own place?
We thought it would be easiest having everyone in one place, so we thought we’d offer to pay… or should we see if guests are comfortable paying?
What would you do?
Post # 2
Also, how would you let guests know that these apartments are available, but not seem controlling (and let them choose elsewhere if they prefer?)
Post # 3
You could ask them before you book if that would be something they would be interested in, like do an informal poll. That way you don’t pay for it if nobody is interested, and that way they get to choose without feeling forced into one arrangement vs another.
Post # 4
This is what we did sorta. Our venue had a 7bedroom villa on site so had one room and the rest of the bridal party and friends took the other rooms. Even had a few people bring air mattresses and set up in non bedrooms (library, den). We also had a hotel block for family but no one who was offered the villa turned it down.
Post # 5
I’d prefer to make my own arrangements. I need my own space/privacy. And my own bathroom.
And if I was single, I would hate having to share a room with another singleton.
Post # 6
If I am paying then I want to book my own accommodation. Just because I am friends or friendly with someone does not mean I want to share a living space with them. Some of my friends whilst I love them to death are slobs who I would not want to share accommodation with.
Post # 7
I would love to stay with a group of friends, especially if it were paid for!!
Maybe text them all individually and gauge their reactions?
i think it partly depends on how old you guys are. Are you 20s / early 30s? Probably a great idea. (Some of the responders here are older, when people are more inclined to be particular about their accommodations and also have more spending money.)
Post # 8
We are late 20s, but some of our friends are married, long term dating, single etc.
We would love for them to be all in the same area for convenience so it’s easy to just walk home.
Post # 9
For me I wouldn’t want to stay with others, so I’d just pay for myself to stay somewhere else but some people are into it, so I’d probably just ask them. (I’m 29)
Post # 10
You need to give people the choice
Post # 11
You an offer the option of the apartment and you can offer to pay, but you can’t obligate people to all stay in one place. That’s totally up to them.
Post # 12
What a lovely and thoughtful idea! I would definitely stay.
Post # 13
Thanks everyone. I’m thinking on the facebook group for our friends invited I will share where we are staying and say there are a few apartments in the same building and offer to put them on hold if people are interesting in staying there.
Then people who want their space can choose elsewhere if they want.