Paying for accom.. what would you do?

posted 3 years ago in Guests
Post # 3
370 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: March 2019

You could ask them before you book if that would be something they would be interested in, like do an informal poll. That way you don’t pay for it if nobody is interested, and that way they get to choose without feeling forced into one arrangement vs another.

Post # 4
7987 posts
Bumble Beekeeper

This is what we did sorta. Our venue had a 7bedroom villa on site so had one room and the rest of the bridal party and friends took the other rooms. Even had a few people bring air mattresses and set up in non bedrooms (library, den). We also had a hotel block for family but no one who was offered the villa turned it down.

Post # 5
3089 posts
Sugar bee

I’d prefer to make my own arrangements.  I need my own space/privacy. And my own bathroom.

And if I was single, I would hate having to share a room with another singleton.

Post # 6
9252 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper

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favflamingo :  If I am paying then I want to book my own accommodation. Just because I am friends or friendly with someone does not mean I want to share a living space with them. Some of my friends whilst I love them to death are slobs who I would not want to share accommodation with.

Post # 7
3655 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2018

I would love to stay with a group of friends, especially if it were paid for!!

Maybe text them all individually and gauge their reactions?

i think it partly depends on how old you guys are. Are you 20s / early 30s? Probably a great idea. (Some of the responders here are older, when people are more inclined to be particular about their accommodations and also have more spending money.)

Post # 9
564 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2016

For me I wouldn’t want to stay with others, so I’d just pay for myself to stay somewhere else but some people are into it, so I’d probably just ask them. (I’m 29)

Post # 10
305 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2018

You need to give people the choice

Post # 11
14029 posts
Honey Beekeeper

You  an offer the option of the apartment and you can offer to pay, but you can’t obligate people to all stay in one place. That’s totally up to them. 

Post # 12
35 posts

What a lovely and thoughtful idea! I would definitely stay.

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