(Closed) Paying for BMs hair and/or makeup

posted 8 years ago in Beauty
Post # 3
Member
1022 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

I’m just going to ask them all to wear their hair half up and let them have free reign other than that.  If I go to a salon to have mine done then I will give them the option to have it done there if they want.  But it’s not required.  And the way their hair looks isn’t important enough for me to pay for it.

Post # 4
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5273 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: October 2009

Personally I think its a little much to say I want your hair done X way.

However, if you decide for them to have similar hair either A) Make it easy enough for them to do themselves or B) if its a hard hairstyle to do (i.e. they have to get it profesionally done, then IMO I think you should pay.)

The only thing I asked my girls to do was for nobody to wear something big in their hair like a flower or flashy headband, other then that they all wore it the way they wanted to, which I think is important because each girl is comfortable.

Post # 5
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6572 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: February 2010

i haven’t decided if i’m paying or not. as of now they think they’re paying so it would just be a nice surprise if i did, not an extra expense for them. i’m friends with my hair dresser so i’m hoping she is going to give me some sort of discount, if she does that i can pay! either way i’m letting them do whatever they want. their dresses don’t match, so it would be weird if their hair did.

Post # 6
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1514 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2009

My mom paid for the hair and make up, it was about $400 for all of us.  I didn’t have any requirements about their hair, just let them wear it however they wanted. (My half up, Maid/Matron of Honor all down, Bridesmaid or Best Man all up)

Post # 7
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2289 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: November 2010

As of right now, I can’t afford to pay for their hair and make-up (though I really want to!), so my plan is to get them a nice hairpiece instead. Other than that, I have no stipulations on how their hair should look, other than out of their face which won’t be difficult!

Post # 8
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987 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2009

I can’t imagine telling them how they should wear their hair and I know I would resent it if someone gave me restrictions.  It is a nice gesture to pay for it if you can but I don’t think it is expected.  And if you don’t pay for it I think it would be really inappropriate to tell them how they have to wear it.

Post # 9
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51 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

My plan backfired on me!

I have a Bridesmaid or Best Man from SC, one from our hometown (where our wedding is, in PA), one from OH, and my Maid/Matron of Honor is from CA. Since they’re already shelling out money for the dress and plane fare, I thought I would offer to pay for their hair to be done (they’re all staying with me so they don’t have to pay hotel costs, too).

When I sent the email out, all but one (my FSIL) said they’d like to have their hair down. Future Sister-In-Law wants to have her hair UP, and by the way, her stepmother would like her hair done and her mother wants her hair done, and what about FSIL’s makeup?!?!?

I kindly wrote back and said she could take care of her own makeup, but felt bad about her mother and stepmother. Then MY mother heard about it and wants HER hair done!

At $65 a pop – 6 of which are just to have a blowout. Is this ridiculous or what?

LOL my wedding is going to be a disaster but it’s going to be MY disaster. 🙂

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