Post # 1
I am a bridesmaid living on the west coast, and my bride-to-be friend from back home is on the east coast. A few of the other bridesmaids are throwing the bridal shower back home. I will not be attending because I am trying to limit my expenses, especially because I am a student. Since I am not attending the shower, am I expected to chip in for the costs of hosting the shower?
I am chipping in for a group bridal shower gift. I also attended her bachelorette party weekend in Vegas, which not all bridesmaids attended. The shower will likely not be not a huge expense since it will be a barbecue and maybe 30 people were invited, but am I expected to offer to chip in for hosting if I am not actually physically there to host?
Post # 3
From what I understand, if the bridal party is paying for the shower then usually everyone in the bridal party chips in. Have they asked you to contribute? If you’re financially unable to do so, I would just explain that to the other bridesmaids. I’m sure they’d understand, especially since you’re a student.
Post # 4
As Maid/Matron of Honor, I & the BMs hosted my bff’s shower last summer in Pittsburgh. Four of us were able to make it (though we all live out of state and had to fly in), but one was super preggers AND living all the way in TX so she couldn’t make it. She still chipped in for the shower both party & gift, but she didn’t chip in for the b’party later that night (this is the arrangement we all agreed upon) since it was super casual.
I would just talk to everyone and hear their thoughts and voice your own.