Post # 1
Did you pay for you bridesmaids hair and makeup for the wedding (professional)? I covered the cost of their dresses up front and told them that they may have to pay $100 for them (they were $300) when they come in. This is still up in the air, but they know this is a possibility and have had a year to come up with the money, if needed. They more than likely will not have to pay anything for the dresses though, and can wear whatever shoes they want/have already. I also bought them the jewelry, so the outfit aspect for them is covered, or for the most part will be.
Is it rude to not pay for professional hair and makeup for your bridesmaids if I myself am having it done? I can ask them individually if they would like to pay for it to be done themselves, then they can do that, since it will be at the venue the day of. Did anyone else do this? Was your bridal party split, as in some had it professionally done/some didn’t? If so, did those who didn’t have it done feel left out, etc?
I have full confidence that they will all look beautiful doing their own hair/makeup, but want to give them the option if they would like, but don’t want to have anyone feel left out if they can’t afford it or don’t want it done. Did anyone run into this problem? Thanks!
Post # 2
I am of the belief that if the bride wants a particular hairstyle/look, then she needs to pay for it. If you don’t mind how the bridesmaids have their hair or makeup done, then they can either do it themselves or pay to have a professional do it for them.
At this stage, we are hoping to offer to pay for my bridesmaids (I have 3 plus a junior) to have their hair professionally done if they would like to (I’m having a stylist and MUA come out to do me anyway). A few things have come in under budget so far, so we’re hoping that we can slip this extra in. If they would prefer to do their own hair, however, that is also perfectly fine.
Post # 3
I will be paying for my bridesmaids dresses, hair, make up shoes etc. I wouldn’t ask anyone to be in my wedding and make them pay but I realise it depends where you’re from.
Post # 4
Yup I paid for their dresses, hair, makeup and even accommodation. They did however make the effort to fly across the world for my wedding so it was the least I could do 🙂
Post # 5
- Wedding: May 2015 - St Peter\'s Church, East Maitland, and Bella Vista, Newcastle
If you’re insisting they have it done, you pay – but as you’d be happy for them to do the own if they prefer, you don’t have to pay. You can give them the option of paying if they want it done – I don’t see an issue with that. I covered all the costs for my girls except shoes but they both had to travel a fair way so it seemed only fair.
Post # 6
I only had my Maid/Matron of Honor and one bridesmaid, so that situation is a little different here, but this is what I did:
I covered my MOH’s hair and plane ticket ($550). She didn’t have any hotel costs because she stayed with me and then her other bestie after the wedding. She paid for her dress and alterations ($150 before alterations) and shoes (not sure how much she spent, but they were nude pumps so I know she’ll be getting good use out of them for years). I didn’t specify any jewelry, so she wore something she had. We all did our own makeup.
My 1 bridesmaid was my Future Sister-In-Law, and I didn’t cover any of her expenses. They were all covered by her mom (groom’s mother), so I considered that her mom’s contribution to the wedding since there was no other contributions haha. I actually don’t even know if Future Sister-In-Law had her hair professionally done or not. I didn’t request a specific hairstyle – just that they don’t do the same type of updo as me.
Post # 7
I have been a bridesmaid a few times and every time the bride wanted (ie. insisted) us to have our hair and makeup professionally done, the bride paid for it.
I have also been in a wedding where it was optional and a couple of bridesmaid chose to have their hair/makeup professionally done, a couple chose just to have their hair done, and a couple did everything themselves. Those that chose to have the professional do it paid for it themselves.
Post # 8
I’m kind of in the same boat as you! I wanted to pay for the hair & makeup for my bridesmaids, but so far I just can’t get it into the budget. At this point, I’ve told them that I will pay for the stylist’s transportation to the venue, hiring of her assistant (which we have to get given the party size), and the tip for the stylist and assistant. Then, I said they will need to pay for their hair and/or makeup if they want to get it done. I am not too picky about how they look so I gave them the option not to do it, but all of them so far seem interested in getting it done. It’s not ideal, but they all seemed to understand, and I think if someone really didn’t want to pay for it they could opt out. (Also, maybe the money will come together in the end…who knows!) But basically, I think it’s not ideal to do it this way, but if it’s unavoidable then do what you have to do! If they have the option not to do it, then it seems reasonable to me.
Post # 9
I don’t think it’s a requirement, but you should talk to them about what they are comfortable with. For mine, I asked them to chip in half for their hair (though most of them ended up not paying me anyway and I didn’t ask again for the money). I said they could do thier own make-up, but I really wanted everyone’s hair done professionally. Really though it just comes down to what they are comfortable and what you’re ok with.
Post # 10
I think it depends on what you can afford and your budget. If you are doing things cheaply as and not asking for particular styles, no problem not paying for their hair and makeup. Everyone would understand. However, if you are spending $$ on other areas, I think it’s a nice gesture to pay for your bridesmaid’s hair and makeup. It tells them they are a priority for you too and that you appreciate their friendship and how expensive being in the bridal party or just attending can be. To me, when people have been expensive weddings but then don’t include spending on people closest to them (in the form of bridal party gifts, hair/makeup), it leaves a bad impression.
Post # 11
I paid for their hair, dresses and hotel stay the night before. They did their own makeup and dealt with their own shoes. I think if you want them to have it professionally done, you need to pay.
Post # 12
I paid for it. My BMs all wanted it done, and I opted to hire someone who specializes in airbrush makeup which is generally more expensive than regular, so I decided to just pay for it all because I didn’t want them to feel like it was out of their budget.
Post # 13
I paid for my Maid/Matron of Honor and FG’s hair to be done. Maid/Matron of Honor opted to do her own make-up, but I offered to pay for that as well. She enjoys doing make-up and does a good job so I didn’t care. I also paid for my Maid/Matron of Honor and FG’s dresses. I bought my Flower Girl jewelry just because – a pearl charm bracelet that said Flower Girl on it. Maid/Matron of Honor – I left that up to her.
You can offer it as an option – say I’m getting so-and-so to do my hair and makeup. If you want yours done it will such and such price. This is optional and not at all mandatory. If you want them to all look a certain way – or have a certain style of make-up I am of the belief that the bride pays in that case.
Post # 14
You don’t have to pay for hair and make up unless you are requiring a specific look, so you are good to go. I am opting to pay for all of their make up so they can feel pampered along with me the morning of the wedding instead of worrying about getting it done themselves, and giving them the option of paying for their own hair. I wish I could pay for both but I’m in the NY area and prices here are bananas. For my maids and mom, make up is 85 and hair is 95 plus tip.
Post # 15
Thanks everyone. I definitely don’t need/want any fancy hair style. Just down and curled or half up. I’m sure they are all more than capable of doing that. Just wasn’t sure if it would be rude to not pay for it or to say it’s not mandatory but it’s available if you choose.
I may still pay for it, just not sure yet.