(Closed) Paying for bridesmaid's make up (UK bee)

posted 4 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 2
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2015 - St Peter\'s Church, East Maitland, and Bella Vista, Newcastle

If you’re not insisting on professional makeup, you don’t have to pay.  I paid for my girls but that was because I wanted them to get it done.  But if she’s insisting, she can pay – if you’re paying for dress and shoes that is plenty generous enough.

Post # 3
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6292 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 2014

EllyAnne:  she wants it doing, so, she pays. You don’t need to pay. 

Post # 4
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Busy bee

Don’t pay for any of it. 

She wants it, she can pay.

I paid for mine because I wanted it done, my bridesmaids would have been happy to do their own. (Also a UK bee)

I’d be particularly annoyed with the entitled behaviour and the assumption that you’re paying.

Post # 5
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Helper bee

If she’s more than able to do her own makeup, the MUA was her idea and you and your sister are doing your own makeup I would just explain to her than you won’t be paying. If havin an MUA do her makeup was your idea then that would be different.

Post # 6
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 2014

As for how to handle it, I’d just say something like ‘hey, it wasn’t in the budget to have make-up done professionally which is why me and Maid/Matron of Honor are doing our own. I’m cool with you having yours done, but I won’t be able to pay xxx’. Don’t apologise, and make the point that you’re doing your own, but keep it light. Then go from there. 

  • This reply was modified 3 years, 10 months ago by  barbie86.
Post # 8
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 2014

EllyAnne:  you aren’t making her spend money though, she’s choosing to. Big difference. 

Our bridesmaids dresses (which they chose) and gifts cost a small fortune (£1200). So, as I wasn’t bothered about shoes (3 of them were in floor length dresses) I said they could wear something they already owned; they opted to buy new shoes in the same colour, but, that was their choice. With hair and make-up, it’s really expensive where I am, plus 3 out of the 4 are super fussy and hate having theirs done. So again, I didn’t pay. One opted to use my hair stylist and she paid, but again, that was her choice. 

Basically, if the couple wants something specific, they should pay, but if the bridesmaids choose to get something that isn’t a ‘requirement’, they should pay. 

  • This reply was modified 3 years, 10 months ago by  barbie86.
Post # 9
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Helper bee

is she aware you and your sister are doing your own makeup? maybe she thinks she is being helpful by suggesting a MUA. 

Post # 10
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2015

I think if you’re doing your own makeup, and have already bought their Bridesmaid or Best Man dresses, then there’s no need for you to pay for someone to come do her makeup. (It’s your day!)

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