(Closed) Paying for drinks or not? Need advice

posted 9 years ago in Reception
Post # 3
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2009

Its just my thought that the guests should not pay for their drinks at all.  Guests dont tend to drink heavily during cocktail hour, so why not close down the open bar during dinner hour to please both of you.  I went to a wedding that did this (there was a note on the bar stating that theyd be closed from 7-8, everyone assumed it was for prep). Although, that might be tricky since it is heavy hors…will there be assigned seating?  If so, that makes it much easier to close it.  You can leave nice pitchers of soda and bottels of water out to take still..

Post # 4
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: February 2010

I’m not a drinker so personally I wouldn’t care either way, but I still agree with you. I understand if you can’t pay because of budget reasons, but otherwise I feel that people should be able to drink without having to shell out the cash while at a wedding.

Post # 6
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2009

We all just got drinks before the dinner.  But if that is the case, Id say pay for it. 

Post # 7
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

I do not want my guests to have to pay for drinks. A wedding for a lot of my guests will be a weekend away from the kids, so I want them to enjoy themselves. All of my guests will be from Out of Town, so the expense to come to my wedding is high(two nights hotel, flights or gas, food, gift, money with the card…)I do not want to cheap out on them.

 

Post # 8
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: June 2010 - Ceremony: Catholic Church, Reception: Hotel Ballroom

I agree with you on this one, LadyChristine.   The way I see it is that you’re not charging them for the hors d’oeuvres, why would you charge for the drinks?  You wouldn’t expect people to pay for their drinks if they came over to your house for dinner.  Smile

If it’s a budget concern to your Fiance, maybe you can make up the extra $$ elsewhere in the budget (invites, decor, etc.)? 

Post # 9
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2009

Hmm, I’m with you. While I see your fiance’s point, you guys should think about your guests, and even for an early wedding, your meal will go into later in the afternoon, and if your family likes to drink, I would definitely provide beer and wine throughout your reception. Especially for that price (which is incredibly reasonable).

If you decide to not have the booze for your entire reception, make sure you spread the word to your guests so they know to bring cash! There’s nothing worse than wanting a drink and your wallet is empty (I never carry cash with me unless I know I’ll need it).

Post # 10
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Busy bee

I can see the point that both you and your Fiance are making. Personally, if the cocktail hour was that short, not even an hour, I would probably just need some water to hold me over. And since it’s an early afternoon, I can’t see anyone drinking heavily anyways. But either way, guests shouldn’t have to pay for the first drinks.

Post # 11
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 2010

I agree with you on this one! You are hosting a party and so you don’t want you guests to pay for anything!

Post # 12
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2009

I’m with ya. I coudln’t charge my guests for their own drinks, particularly since it’s only $2/head and then $500. That’s quite the deal =].

Try to reason with him–perhaps he is only seeing the “$500” side of things, not the etiquette and appreciation that comes from not having to come to a hosted party, then pull out your own wallet.

Post # 14
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: May 2010

From everything that I’ve read (b/c to pass the time during work, shhhhh, I read a lot of wedding blogs) all of them say it’s a very not to do thing to not provide an open bar, and charge your guests for drinks. It’s kind of like going to a bday party, and when guests show up and ask for a drink, you say, “alright, that will be $3” How would you feel?

Post # 15
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Sugar bee

I don’t like the idea of guests having to pay for their own drinks, EVER. 

Post # 16
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: December 1969

When you’re the host, hosted bar. Right?

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