Paying for events you don't plan?

posted 1 year ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 17
1583 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2019

I wouldn’t give any money given the circumstances and the details you included here. 

Post # 18
148 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: October 2018

I’ve been in a similar situation and it is definitely frustrating. Where I am from, it tends to go unsaid that all bridesmaids are hosting the shower. We all gave some input, but it was quite minimal since the maid of honor wanted to handle the logistics. Eventually, an invitation came in the mail that explicitely stated that the shower was hosted by the maid of honor…yet all the bridesmaids each received a Venmo request for around $300. It was pretty ridiculous and I was angry, but myself and the other bridesmaids just decided to pay in order to avoid the drama and fund a nice shower for our friend. 

These things can definitely be frustrating, especially when you are working with people you may not know too well. A lot of the time different people have different expectations as to how finances, planning, etc. should be handled. Like others said, if it’s not significant, I would just pay it and leave it at that. Otherwise, speaking to the Maid/Matron of Honor privately and explaining your thoughts is a good idea.

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