(Closed) Paying for family travel

posted 6 years ago in Destination Weddings
Post # 3
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

I think that is a personal decision that you need to make based on your family and how well you know them. That being said, I don’t think it is rude as long as you don’t announce that you paid for so-and-so to come out. If it is a private type of “gift” I think it is acceptable.

Post # 4
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

I agree with the last poster, I’d keep it quiet but if you want to pay for their travel so they can come, that’s a lovely idea.

Personally I would be in the same boat, but all my family lives in another state. If I had the wedding here (8 hours from them), I’d pay for their travel and lodging.  However I chose to get married back home, which is much harder for me but easier for family! It’s the best way to make sure as many of your loved ones as possible attend the wedding.

Post # 6
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 2012

We are paying the cruise fare and travel for ten of our guests for reasons similar to yours. It is a private arrangement between us and those involved and we are not divulging it to other people (in real life). Its a great thing to do and we diid it in order to have our most important people there that day.

Post # 7
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

@immanorcalbee: Hmm… that might be something you’d want to talk to them about. Would they keep it under wraps if you say something like “I really want you and *,* and * to come to my wedding and understand that it is hard in thi economy. To make sure you come, I would like to pay for your (flights), (hotel), (etc). However, I don’t have enough money to pay for everyone who isn’t able to come, and I don’t want to offend anyone. For the sake of my relationship with other family members, could you consider this a gift that is best kept quiet?”

My only concern would be that if they tell/brag/share with family, the family you cannot and do not pay to come to your wedding might be offended.

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