Post # 1
I’m trying to be brief here and not go into all the details, so here’s the short version.
We are planning a destination wedding and have offered to pay for the hotel/flight for some family members who wouldn’t otherwise be able to make it. I know we don’t have to do it, but I can’t imagine getting married without these people and this is the only way they’re going to be able to afford it.
How much say should the guests have in their choice of hotel/flights? Would it be unreasonable to expect them to drive an extra hour to another airport if it means the flights would be half price? Would it be unreasonable to ask these guests to stay outside their ‘preferred’ area of town (but still a ‘good area’ and just as convenient) if it meant saving $50/night on the rooms.
I’m just torn on what I can reasonably ask my guests to do to attend my wedding, especially if I’m paying.
Post # 3
If your paying I think you can reasonably do both of those things.
An hour isn’t far at all to drive to an airport, and as long as the hotel is convenient I say it is fine!
You are being UBER generous with paying their way, I think they can handle a little inconvenience!
Post # 4
@smiles4jo: You’re paying, you pick the flights and hotel. If they want something different, they can pay the difference. Ultimately, it’s your choice to pay for them and it’s awesome that you’re doing it but if they’re adults they really should be chipping in SOMETHING towards it–after all this is your wedding and they’re getting a free vacation out of the deal. I’m not trying to start drama but I’m just pointing out that a situation like that can breed resentment. We’re paying for fiance’s brother to go to Hawaii for our destination wedding and I’m kind of ticked off that his parents haven’t offered to pitch in AT ALL (he’s 16)
I would consider it in EXTREMELY poor taste if your guests weren’t willing to drive an extra hour to the airport or stay in a different area of town when they’re not paying for it.
Post # 5
You are paying so you can put them in any hotel you want, but the flight times should have a bit of wiggle room if they have special circumstances. But, for the most part, you can have them go at any time and, yes, driving an hour is perfectly acceptable. You are being very kind in paying for them and you have every right to make things as cost-efficient as possible for yourself.