(Closed) Paying for her trip to my destination wedding – Ideas for a thank you gift

posted 6 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 3
665 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

I would say no to the gift, you are being so generous. If you really want to get her something, maybe just a little charm for her bouquet? you could go to micheals ( or equivilant) and get an old timey picture fram charm and put in a pic of the two of you as kids. sentimental, inexpensive and she would love it im sure

Post # 4
761 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

Wow…this is tough. As an Maid/Matron of Honor, I wouldn’t expect a gift in this situation, but as the bride, I can understand why you would feel uncomfortable not giving one. 

My vote would be to write out a nice card, and then print out a nice picture of you and her together on your wedding day.  Buy a nice frame so that she can have it as a reminder of your time together.  (Obviously, the gift would have to be delayed until you have your pro pics developed).

Post # 5
6015 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: March 2012

I think the card would be enough.  I mean your gift is the travel to your wedding.  What a nice thing to do.

Post # 6
857 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

The jerk in me wants you to get her and her family tourist tee shirts … or keychains? 

Post # 7
3886 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

I’d gift her (and possibly her kids too) with an experience of some sort at the destination.  Since I don’t know where the destination is, it’s hard to suggest, but some ideas could be admission to the local aquarium, a sightseeing cruise (most cities have these, for under $20), or some other fun activity.  That way you can still control the costs but give her something she will remember for a long time.

Post # 8
433 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 2012



I am doing a destination wedding as well, and am paying for the hotel & air accommodations for my mother, and my handicapped sister and NO you do not need to purchase anything additional for them. If I were your cousin I would refuse any gift, knowing that you just paid thousands of dollars to get me there.  

A simple card is sufficient. I know that it feels awkward to not have an “item” but think about the monumental sacrifice you made in getting them to your special event. I’m sure they appreciate and understand that.


Post # 9
8453 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: April 2013

I think a nice card and maybe something small she can use on the trip (i.e. travel sunscreen, flip flops, spf chapstick, etc), but I would keep the gift and card under $20.  I think she’ll feel more than appreciated.

Post # 10
6743 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: June 2014

Wow, I wish I was your Maid/Matron of Honor.  I think you’re being super generous so I totally understand if you didn’t get her anything but a card.  But I, like you, would feel so awkward not getting her something just to open.  And, I think $25 should be the max budget for it.  I think you can get something really cute from etsy perhaps.  Just a nice little necklace maybe?  Or, maybe some makeup?  Like a shade of lipgloss and a nice mascara?  Perhaps a cute little coin purse?  I’m not really sure what kinds of things she might like, but I think you can definitely do something reasonable and I don’t think you even have to give a gift at all, since you’re giving her and her family the gift of a free vacation! 









I mean seriously, such cute things on etsy for such great prices. 

Post # 11
556 posts
Busy bee

lol i want to be your moh too :)!

i wouldnt expect a gift, but if youre set on it—-just do jewelry or something she can wear to wedding.

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