Paying for ILs wedding album?

posted 3 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 61
56 posts
Worker bee

Sorry but your in-laws sound plain rude and disrespectful. To berate you over supposedly not letting them see the photos is ridiculous but to then expect you to pay for an album is entitled and selfish, especially on top of how your father in law insulted your dad. I wouldn’t speak to someone again over just that. Enjoy your photos and let them arrange their own. The only people with any right to a wedding album are the bride and groom, other people have to arrange their own, after all your mum has paid for her own album.

Post # 62
595 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2017

Your inlaws sound petty and rude. I wouldn’t do anything.

HOWEVER, if you do want to play nice, do really good (professional looking) albums and for your first order, you can get an 8×8 flat lay with 20 pages for free and only pay postage. For our wedding, both set of parents are splitting the cost of the photog + our album, and I’m then going to make an album from zno for each set. 

Post # 63
1635 posts
Bumble bee

EVERYTHING garnobella  said!  Your HUSBAND needs to handle his family. Start interacting with your ILs on bullshit like this and your relationship will devolve into a shitshow for the rest of your marriage. With ILs like these, it will suck anyway, but your husband need to establish through his actions that communication goes through HIM, not you. In this case, he needs to call them and set them straight on the album.

If this feels uncomfortable to you, think about this:  When your parents need to communicate, do they call him rather than you?

Post # 64
470 posts
Helper bee

I totally agree with the bees your hubby is in charge now. It’s his family, he deals with them. 

And I wouldn’t mention that your mom got an album for her, that’s non of their business. I’d just send “Hi Mother-In-Law, albums are available at 400$, feel free to contact xyz. We could also povide soft copies.” and send her like 5 printed pics in the mail.

Post # 65
106 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: June 2016

knickergold :  you can upload the photos to Google drive and give them permission to access the folder.  

Post # 67
8324 posts
Bumble Beekeeper

knickergold :  

Goodo, (although I;d have been a lot  happier to hear  you’d gone the here is  the photog. number/ album ordering details MIL’ route – but that because I’m angry for you re  your dad)  

Also  don’t don’t forget the advice re having your husband be the one who deals/explains.

Unforgivable the saying of  horrible things about your  father  at his funeral . Another  thing your husband should be aware of…..

Post # 68
11 posts
  • Wedding: May 2018

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