Post # 1
My best friend is getting married this coming summer and is on a pretty strict budget. I really want her to be able to get the bridal bouquet she wants without having to worry about the cost. So I was thinking about giving her a card with a decent amount of cash and writing something like, “I would be honored to help pay for your bridal bouquet. Pick out the flowers you’ve been dreaming of!”
Is this offensive in any way? For some reason I feel like it might be a little weird… But I just want her to get what she wants and not settle for something that’s in her budget just because it’s cheaper. I’d rather give her the bouquet than a generic wedding gift, and I think it would mean a lot to her.
Is that appropriate? And how should I word the card? Thanks for the input!
Post # 3
I think that this is so thoughtful and sweet and I’m sure she’ll love it!
Post # 4
- Wedding: June 2010 - New York Botanical Garden
I would give her the card but not the cash (unless you want to be sure that it is only a certain amount) and then talk to the florist independently with your friend, so that you can take care of the cost without your friend. Either way, I think it’s a very sweet gesture and she is definitely going to appreciate it!
Post # 5
I think it is really sweet and thoughtful! I would LOVE it if a friend did that for me!
Post # 6
I would say that the gesture is really sweet, but that since you are gifting her the bouquet, you should try to take part in deciding what kind of bouquet it is. Are you prepared to spend $200-$300 on the bouquet if that’s what it costs? I’m not sure that giving her a gift card with the money would result in the same connection to the gift as if you were there picking it out with her.
Post # 7
such a sweet idea! i would give her the cash, that way she can upgrade and pick up the difference herself if she wants a more expensive bouquet. that note is perfect.
Post # 8
I think it is a great idea. My husband and I are in our thirties and have everything we need, so we insisted that no one buy us any gifts. But a few people, namely my family, absolutely refused not to get us anything. So, my sister paid for our flowers as a wedding gift, and my parents paid for our cake (We paid for the wedding ourselves.) I can tell you it was a wondeful gesture that was greatly appreciated. I think your best friend will love it.
Post # 9
We’ve been looking at flowers together and knowing my friend, she won’t pick something over $100 even if she doesn’t have to pay for it. So I’m thinking I’ll just give her a set amount, and tell her to use it toward her bridal bouquet budget. If it’s less than that, to use it on something else she’s dying to have but thinks is too frivolous to put in her budget. If it’s more than that… she can pick up the difference because I’m on a budget too :). Thanks for the input ladies!
Post # 10
my mom did this for me as a christmas gift last year, but rather than just giving me cash (which can so easily be used for something else), she contacted my florist and paid her directly so it was an acurate amount of money for my bouquet, and she knew that the cash would actually go to the bouquet.
Post # 11
I think it is a very lovely gesture. My aunt/uncle are doing something similar for me (they offered to pay for our wedding cake). Trust me when I say that she will be VERY happy that someone is willing to give her such a thoughtful gift for her wedding. She will never forget it. As my Fiance and I will never forget that our wedding cake is a gift from my aunt/uncle.
Post # 12
This makes me think about that episode of Say Yes to the Dress ATL, when the girl who’s on a budget tries on a gown that she loves, but it’s like 600 over her budget. She was a breast cancer survivor. Her friend piped in and said that she would pay the difference. It was heart warming.
Post # 13
I say to tell her to show you her dream bouquet and show it to the florist. Then speak to the florist and decide on a set amount that you will pay toward the bouquet, tell her to discuss all details with the bride except the price, just how much she can contibute toward the bouquet. The florist will know the total amount she has to work with and your friend will never know the amount and will actually treat herself because she will never know the price of the bouquet. The florist will know how much money she has to work with and that way your friend wil be able to decide any substitutions that may need to be done to stay in budget. I’m sure that the florist will also be touched at your gesture and probably make the bouquet for what the 2 of you can afford.
I want to add what a wonderful gift this is and your friend is lucky to have you!
Post # 14
In conversation about our cake with my husband’s sister, the price of it came up, and she stepped up and offered to pay for it. I thought it was a sweet gesture.
Post # 15
That is really really nice & sweet of you to do. A very nice gesture.