(Closed) Paying for or giving a massage – which would your FI prefer?

posted 8 years ago in Relationships
Post # 3
4272 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: April 2012

My sister bought me a swedish massage at the Glen Ivy Hot Springs Spa. It was pricey, but it was amazing…. I am thinking of buying a couples session after the baby arrives. I think he will like it, since these girls really know what they are doing. The lady even pointed out that my neck was out of alignment and asked if I got headaches. I had no idea!

Post # 4
5493 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 2011

My DH likes giving me massages.  They’re nice for intimacy purposes, but if I want a real massage I like going to a spa, (and he has no problem with me spending money on it).

Post # 6
5667 posts
Bee Keeper

Luckily my Fiance likes giving me massages and cracking my back. He used to be a professional ballet dancer so he got a massage certificate to help other dancers with injuries back in the day. I have a lot of back pain so I’m glad for it. $75 doesn’t seem like a lot for NYC and if it fits into your budget I don’t see why not.

Post # 7
2398 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: April 2012

I personally would prefer to get one at a spa because his massages always are cut short by a hard on and sex. (TMI) hehe Although that is wonderful, I never really get the massage I want. hehe 

Post # 9
9952 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2012

My Fiance massages me (somewhere or other) almost every night – back, shoulders, feet or wherever it hurts.  He loves having his hands on me, lol, as much as I love having mine on him.  I guess this saves us a lot of money, hmmmmm, never thought about it that way.

Post # 10
3625 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

I think we both would rather pay someone than to give it to the other ourselves. We both can’t massage as hard as a professional (especially me) and we both run out of steam about 5 minutes into it. Haha.

Post # 11
1004 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

Fiance says he does not mind giving massages (definitely thinks they are too expensive to pay for them!) BUT his massages are always a bit half-hearted in my opinion and often it just makes him want to have sex so they never last long.

I greatly enjoy giving and receiving massages, but I stopped giving since he doesn’t ever ask for them, and when he gives they are just kinda like a slightly more intense back scratch.

When I have the money (ie when I’m not a grad student), I’m going to start treating myself to a professional massage more often!


Post # 12
1765 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

I loveeee massages! Fiance doesn’t like them. He doesn’t mind giving them.. but they’re never as long as I’d like. He’ll do it for less than a minute and think he’s done it for five! Although I just asked him if he’d rather do it or pay.. and he said he’d rather give me a good one. So we’ll see if he improves now! haha 🙂

Post # 13
8482 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: April 2014

Alex gives me massages several times a week, so I think he would actually get his feelings hurt if I went somewhere to pay for it.

Post # 14
1360 posts
Bumble bee

Fortunately, Fiance loves me enough to massage my feet/back/legs/etc. with no complaints. He literally does this every day. It’s fantastic, and I love that he is willing to do it.

If he refused though, I’d definitely be going weekly to get one myself!

Post # 15
866 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 2011

I used to get massages in college all the time — our health services had two pros who did them for a special student rate. I miss that SO much!

DH loves to give massages, and will frequently start without being asked. I massage him too, but he’s more sensitive and doesn’t enjoy it as much as I do.

For our honeymoon, I booked us a couple’s massage — his first pro massage ever! It was sort of entertaining to peek over at him, as the woman had to be very gentle and it took him forever to just relax. For me, it was the first full-body I’d had in a few years, so I was in heaven. My guy was very good, and focused entirely on the parts that really hurt from all the stress. Mmmm I want another one!!

I consider pro massages an indulgence now, but that’s because they’re not in the budget. If we had the funds, however, I’d basically consider it a household necessity. OP, if it’s within your means, DO IT! Stress relief is very important, you know ;D

Post # 16
13094 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2010

While I like have DH’s hand on me, a professional massage is SOO much better than his.  Sometimes I just needed to be worked on more than he can provide.

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