(Closed) Paying for premarital counseling

posted 8 years ago in Christian
Post # 3
100 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

That’s really expensive sounding! Maybe look around for another councellor in town? Or go to SC a couple days before the wedding and do some councelling beforehand.

Post # 5
960 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

Here its standard in the Catholic Church to pay for sessions but they are massive GROUP sessions (40+ people) and they charge 150-250 for the set of 6 sessions. If we wanted 1 on 1 counciling we’d be required to pay more. 

There is the stipulation if these are not completed we wont be allowed to marry in the church.

Check around but it doesn’t seem that unreasonable if its 1 on 1 sessions. I only found out I could pay 150 when my local church put on a session, if I went with one hosted by the arch dioses (spelling) it was 250

Post # 6
4282 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

We paid $600. This covered the fee for using the church, the pastor fee, and pre marital counseling. We got married at a Lutheran church.

Post # 7
1835 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: November 2012 - Oak Tree Manor

Aw sweetie that sounds like such a predicament – I think $135 per session is a lot!! What denomination church do you go to? Have you tried talking to pastors at any other churches? To be honest, charging $135 per session sounds a little greedy to me, and maybe it’s because this pastor is a “professional counselor.” Mr. W and I did premarital counseling with a younger (40-something) associated pastor at my Presbyterian church, and he was awesssssome. He didn’t charge anything, we met with him about 5 times, and we really got a lot out of our counseling sessions – we learned a lot about each other and talked about what to expect in marriage and how to  get through the big issues during the first few years. Maybe my church is an exception to the rule, but there have to be churches with pastors that will offer you marital advice for free, or at least much cheaper…I think it’s a little odd that they’re billing you. At my church, you’re expected to make a donation (the suggested donation is $400) for the whole process – premarital counseling, using the church, and the pastor fee.

Post # 9
853 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 2012

That’s a lot.  We didn’t pay for our counseling, but we were also sort of his guinea pigs because he had never counseled before (it wasn’t worth it).  Our home church has a standard fee for theirs, but it was like $90 for 6 hours or something.  $135 per session is really steep.

Could you maybe talk to your pastor and find out if there are other faith-based counselors in your area?  Maybe this is someone who has been referred to him and he has no real first-hand knowledge of.  That said, our sessions had a lot of analying of past and family and even with a Christian counselor was maybe 1/3 faith-based.

Post # 10
7643 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2012

That is quite expensive, especially to meet with the Pastor.

We actually had options–we could do a weekend couples retreat, meet with the Pastor and other couples at night classes OR go through a counselor that the church recommended, which is what we did because we wanted to communicate privately. Our sessions were $175 for 3-4 sessions. We had a minimum requirement of 3 sessions per our church.

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