(Closed) Paying for the bar

posted 11 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
1066 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

I would go with option 2- amount bar. I really do not like drink tickets, but that is just me. Waht about doing a 1-2 hour hosted bar? It really depends on how much your venue charges for drinks.

Post # 4
2186 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

i would go with option 2 🙂 although it depends on the price difference though!

Post # 5
617 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2009

I would do option 2.  I prefer that over the drink tickets

Post # 6
18626 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2009

Option two!  I would make sure there is a warning before it goes to a cash bar.  Do you have anyone that might drink a ton?  If so, maybe you should tell them in advance to take it easy (for their own safety too).

Post # 7
1246 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

we are doing option 2!

Post # 8
7172 posts
Busy Beekeeper

What if instead of a full bar, you had free beer and wine and then had the liquor available for purchase.  I don’t LOVE that option, but it’s better than drink tickets.

How much are you budgeting for alcohol?

Post # 9
343 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

My personal preference is for drink tickets OR for the bar to be open for 1-2 hours.  I don’t like the option 2 as a guest because it can be a surprise and it can be a little annoying if some people are guzzling.  I like to either have my tickets or know at what time the bar will switch to cash.  It’s just nice to know what’s going to happen going into the evening, rather than at some random moment it turns to cash bar.  That said, I prefer for the bar to be open for 1-2 hours as opposed to drink tickets.  Open bar for the first couple of hours gets the party started

Post # 10
3871 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

I would consider option 2 but just make sure to be fair to ALL of your guest and not let people know about it ahead of time. Because they might head to the bar and bring back a ton of drinks knowing that they don’t have to pay for it.  And leaving poor grandma who doesn’t know, paying for all of her drinks. Just a thought.  I know I considered that because my DH’s side are a bit on the alcoholic drinks are required side.

Post # 12
913 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2009

We are putting $1000 down for open bar – once it is done, then it becomes cash bar!  I have a lot of family members that don’t drink so I thought it would be pointless to pay per person/per hour.

Post # 13
1932 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

If you go with option number 2… maybe ask the company that is in charge of the bar how much alcohol they typically go through each hour, then adjust it based your the drinking habits of your family and friends.  At my FI’s cousin’s wedding, they had several thousand dollars for a 100 person wedding for the bar amount and they met that during cocktail hour!  They agreed to keep the bar open for the rest of the night (no charge to guests), but I’m sure it was really expensive.  So basically, take into account how much your guests will likely drink.

Post # 14
928 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

I like the drink tickets option out of the 2 because although it may not be ideal, it makes it more fair and everyone gets the same amount without some taking advantage of it. I like the 1-2 hr hosted bar thing, as well. I think as long as you inform the guest with either option about what’s going on, it shouldn’t be a problem. Can yall do 1 or 2 signature drinks hosted by yall?

Post # 15
435 posts
Helper bee

I know I’m in the minority but I like the ticket idea.  I  don’t understand why everyone is so negative about it.  They could be cute and it seems so much nicer for everyone to be able to have a glass of wine or two instead of just a few people who might get to the bar faster and drink a lot.  In My Humble Opinion

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