(Closed) paying for the groomens stuff but not the bridesmaids stuff… HELP

posted 7 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 3
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2010

I’d just keep it to paying for the ones coming from England, and keep it quiet.

Post # 4
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654 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

Is the homeland groomsman likely to bitch about having to pay when the other men did not?  If he understands why you’re paying for the others and not for him, make him pay his way and then even if his wife finds out, she can’t feel excluded.  If you pay for him too, though, she’s going to know, and then I think you’re on the hook for everyone’s gear.  Sorry.  I guess it really depends on that one groomsman.  Good luck.

Post # 5
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: March 2012

Well they are your friends, so you should just have a chat.  You made sense in your post, I mean they are dropping quite a lot to come to the wedding.  I’m sure they will understand.

Post # 6
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Sugar bee

We paid for the tux rentals of our two international best men. We didn’t make a big deal about it and I don’t think anyone else even knew. We did not pay for the pther groomsmen or bridesmaids. I would not pay for the groomsman who is local and just not discuss that you are paying for the others. Unless they pick up their rental together, no one will know who paid for what. If you’re worried about fairness, I think anyone should understand that they have greater costs to attend and therefore you are helping them out with this small part.

Post # 7
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

you don’t need to tell the gm that lives here or any of the bms that you’re paying for the other gm’s suits.

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