Post # 1
so my FH is from England and his groomsmen are all but one are flying in from England for the big day and we are paying for the suit rentals…the one that is not flying in is from here…his wife is in my bridal party…and we are not paying for the dresses…so how do i bring up that she needs to go get her dress and we are not paying for it?? we just cant afford to pay for everyones attire, but since the boys are spending tons of money to come for the wedding and in the UK the bride and groom pay for their attendents attire that why we decided to pay for theirs.
Post # 3
I’d just keep it to paying for the ones coming from England, and keep it quiet.
Post # 4
Is the homeland groomsman likely to bitch about having to pay when the other men did not? If he understands why you’re paying for the others and not for him, make him pay his way and then even if his wife finds out, she can’t feel excluded. If you pay for him too, though, she’s going to know, and then I think you’re on the hook for everyone’s gear. Sorry. I guess it really depends on that one groomsman. Good luck.
Post # 5
Well they are your friends, so you should just have a chat. You made sense in your post, I mean they are dropping quite a lot to come to the wedding. I’m sure they will understand.
Post # 6
We paid for the tux rentals of our two international best men. We didn’t make a big deal about it and I don’t think anyone else even knew. We did not pay for the pther groomsmen or bridesmaids. I would not pay for the groomsman who is local and just not discuss that you are paying for the others. Unless they pick up their rental together, no one will know who paid for what. If you’re worried about fairness, I think anyone should understand that they have greater costs to attend and therefore you are helping them out with this small part.
Post # 7
you don’t need to tell the gm that lives here or any of the bms that you’re paying for the other gm’s suits.
Post # 8
well the local groomsmen was the one at whoes wedding my Fh and i met. He knows we are paying for the other guys because they all have massive mouths 🙂 the local one did in fact make his boys pay for their tux rentals. I guess just having a chat with him will be our best bet.