- 10 years ago
So I have mentioned previously about the house situation with DH. Pretty much, Mother-In-Law moved out of the house on the farm-yard, bought a new house in town and I moved in to the house on the farm (DH was living in it with MIL). I never liked the idea of living in MIL’s old house, brought up us building on land on the other side of the yard (DH could still very easily work in the yard), but Mother-In-Law was not comfortable with close to us and on the farm anymore and wanted out. My say, was null and void, so I *tried* accepting it.
Without going into much details, the house and yard we are living in is still under MIL’s name. I decided to bring it up with DH tonight that I think, for everyone’s best interest, we should be putting our names on the titles, now. I assumed Mother-In-Law would be giving it to DH as inheritance. DH apparently, told Mother-In-Law he would mortage it all.. claims he told her this before us. So that would cost us about 300-400 grand PLUS interest.
This doesn’t exactly sit right with me, especially because DH commented that he wants to make sure Mother-In-Law lives comfortably. But, what I see her living “comfortably” is an almost brand new house, furniture, appliances, and now she’s putting granite countertops throughtout the house. In my mind, that’s luxury, and you use the income YOU have earned for those luxuries. I would have had NO problem buying new furniture and appliances (which I am anyway) and her taking everything from the house.
Mother-In-Law does not work full-time, or even part-time. She works casually, AM’s for a friend in her cafe. She’s not at retired age, she’s far from it. Maybe because I come from a family where all of my grandparents are working their butts off and are 15-20 years her senior, I’m not so forgiving of the situation.
Now, we’re actually not sure WHAT Mother-In-Law wants to do. But I wouldn’t be surprised if she gets us to pay, either through mortage or straight to her.
I’m not sure where to go from here. I don’t think DH is going to budge. It’s his Mum, everyone knows men and their Mum. Am I out of line for thinking this way, though? SHOULD we be paying for the house? I mean, some may yes, but WHY would I pay for something I never wanted in the first place and had no say in the matter??