(Closed) Paying For The House I Didn’t Want…

posted 6 years ago in Home
Post # 5
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

So, are the three of you livimg in this house and you and Darling Husband paying for it?

Post # 7
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 2011

Sorry, I read that three times and I’m still rather confused.

Post # 8
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2009

I am completely confused.  Is your Mother-In-Law paying for the new house she lives in, or is your DH?

Post # 9
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

Am I reading it right that you are buying the house and land that you currently live in from her instead of her just deeding it over? This in essence will pay for her new house.

Post # 11
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

I still don’t know what’s going on, but dont pay for a house you don’t want. definitely don’t put your name on it. Talk to Darling Husband and come to an agreement. Living in a house you hate to please Mother-In-Law has zero chance for a positive outcome.

Post # 12
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

Is your husband a farmer? I mean do you have to live there so he can work?

Post # 13
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

I wouldnt pay 400k for a house I didn’t want. Bottom line. I wouldn’t expect a free house, unless I were taking over a family farm/business that would continue to benefit the family.

Post # 16
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Newbee

So tell me if I’m understanding this correctly. Your Mother-In-Law and Darling Husband really wanted you two to move into the farm house and understandably you did not want to. It was your understanding that the house would be free, a gift, etc. Now she and your Darling Husband wants you and your Darling Husband to pay quite a bit of money into a house that your never really wanted and had little say in and that’s why you are frustrated?

If that is the case, I would be frustrated as well, but I wouldn’t be frustrated at Mother-In-Law I would be frustrated at Darling Husband. From my understanding he lead you to believe that the house would be free/cheap and all along he was planing on paying he mom for the whole thing. This should of been decided when you first got engaged and def. when you married. Frankly you dropped the ball on communication big time and it may cost you. You NEED to talk to your Darling Husband realistically. You have two choices, either you put your foot down and make your opinion matter and your opinion is not longer null and void, or you continue on with status quo. Either way you’re probably going to be out of some money. Either you move out of the house and your Mother-In-Law sells it, or you pay your Mother-In-Law for it, or another option all together. It’s your life and you need to stop being a victim. I hope that doesn’t sound too harsh, that being said I would be extreamly frustrated as well. 

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