Post # 1
Just wanted to ask how people generally pay vendors on the day of the wedding (flowers, dj)..do you just give them an envelope with check as they are setting up??
Also what if you need to pay a vendor on the day of the wedding who you actually won’t see in person? I am hiring a stylist to do hair and makeup for my out-of town relatives (mother-in-law and my fiance’s cousin who is reading in the ceremony). As they will be getting ready at their hotel, while we are busy at the venue, I won’t actually get to meet or greet this vendor. Anyone I would have entrusted with this task (our coordinator, my sister, my bridesmaids, even the fiance or groomsmen) will be at the venue and no one at the hotel. I would ask my mother-in-law but don’t feel like handing her money to pay for a service she is getting (even if it is in a sealed envelope and she can’t tell how much it cost) and I also want to avoid the situation of her being able to reject my offer to pay and paying the entire bill herself (this fighting for the bill happens a lot in chinese culture). and I feel like it would be completely awkward to ask another distant family member or random friend. Anyone have any suggestions?
Thanks in advance for any advice/tips!
Post # 3
If you can’t pay them on the day of, mail a check about a week out.
Post # 4
I have a lot vendors I need to pay on the day of as well. As of now, my plan is to have all the checks written and sorted into envelopes, to be given to the wedding coordinator at the reception site the day before (probably at the rehearsal). As she will be the one at the site when everything is being delivered/set up, it makes the most sense for her to take care of it.
In regards to your situation, I would ask the stylist if you can pay early. Take the payment over to her the day before the wedding and then there is no issue of your Mother-In-Law trying to pay the bill as it’s already taken care of. Not sure if that will work in your particular situation but it may be worth asking!
Post # 5
I believe the paying of the vendors & givng the gratuity falls on the Best Man’s task/duty list… either while they’re setting up (given guys don’t take as long to get ready) or after you and the groom leave… pretty much his responsibility and when he is able to that day.
Post # 6
I would pre-pay half to the people you’re not seeing like the hair stylist for your Mother-In-Law. See if she can bill you for the remainder, or maybe call in with your credit card number if you’re comfortable with that. I wouldn’t want to pre-pay the full service unless it was a vendor I knew and trusted.
As for the cake/florist/DJ, we did just what you said. I wrote checks for each and put them in an envelope. I had the best man hang onto them, and pay vendors as necessary.
ETA – if you have a coordinator, she could probably handle the physical handing over of checks.
Post # 7
my firendors are getting paid early so i dont have to worry about them. the venue will be paid off before as well plus they have a card on file in case. the regular vendors are being told the groom will have the envelopes for them.
Post # 8
Checks will be written out and placed in seperate envelopes. My mom is taking on the responsibility of paying the vendors. The venue will be paid off 2 weeks before the wedding, the florist, caterer, dj, and photographer will be paid the day of.
Post # 9
We paid our vendors off already. as we got the money we paid them off so we didnt have to stress the day of the wedding…it is such a big weight lifted off my shoulders and i still have 8 months left!
Post # 10
My really good friend Carrie is taking charge of those details for me. I will have everything in an envelope for her and also make sure my cheque book is at mom’s, so it’s near the venue, in case we forgot someone.
Post # 11
Most of our things are due before the actual wedding day. Tips will be given to our coordinator in envelopes to handle.