(Closed) Payment for officiant?

posted 6 years ago in Etiquette
  • poll: How much would you donate to the church when the officiant is performing free of charge?
    50-100 : (3 votes)
    8 %
    100-150 : (7 votes)
    18 %
    150-200 : (10 votes)
    25 %
    200-250 : (8 votes)
    20 %
    250-300 : (3 votes)
    8 %
    300-400 : (2 votes)
    5 %
    400-500 : (1 votes)
    3 %
    500+ : (5 votes)
    13 %
    0-50 : (0 votes)
  • Post # 3
    1381 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: April 2013

    @kris325:  Ooh I’m not the best one to ask about how much to donate for your church, but I know my officiant costs $600 (and I heard that’s toward the higher end).  So I would say anywhere from $300-600 is pretty standard?

    Post # 4
    690 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: May 2013

    I’m paying 790 euros for my officiant 

    Post # 6
    10601 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: January 2011

    I paid $750 for my church ceremony, including the pianist and didn’t donate anything.  You could always ask the pastor, secretary, or whoever takes care of finances at the church what the average is.  If you give money to the church regulary, I think it’s fair to donate a little less.

    Post # 7
    5660 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: August 2012

    Maybe ask for some estimates on paying for an officiant in your area? Ours was 450 and I’d think if it was free that money would get donates to the church if I was in your situation

    Post # 8
    1724 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: March 1998

    So many things are at play here – what kind of services you’ll be having (i.e., is the pastor helping you with your vows? Writing them for you?), how long the wedding lasts/how many hours total the pastor will be spending on the wedding day/rehearsal and so on.

    I’d say maybe around $200 to $300 to donate if it’s just a standard wedding and rehearsal. Otherwise, you could ask others at the church what they donated for weddings/what their relatives donated.

    I paid a friend $200 to do a 10-minute ceremony, 20-minute rehearsal and just read exactly what I wrote, and I think he was grossly overpaid.

    Post # 9
    10601 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: January 2011

    To help you out some more, consider all the people involved.  We had the minister who we met with and provided us a ‘choose your own ceremony’ suggestion booklet where we had a few options for intro, readings, etc. but had freedom to suggest whatever we wanted.  The ceremony itself was fairly short, about 20 minutes.

    We had a hostess and a small room to be in while everyone was seated.  We did our rehearsal on a Thursday, and they allowed us to drop off things then, and I believe the hostess put on the pew bows, etc.

    Janitorial staff would have also have to been paid.

    Post # 10
    8695 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: September 2013

    I say ATLEAST $200. My officiant is charging us $450 for 20 minutes and many that I looked at were in the $700-900 range.

    Post # 11
    430 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: September 2013 - The Skinner Barn

    I’m paying $125 for a justice of the peace, so I’d say between $125 and $200 seems appropriate

    Post # 13
    1724 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: March 1998

    @gelaine22:  $700 – $900?!? Unless they’re gilding a copy of the vows with gold, that’s absurd. I’m all for fair compensation, I realize that this is a one-off gig for officiants…but a service that may take – what? – a total of ten hours (and I’m being generous here; travel time, rehearsal, wedding day, preparations before these events)? 

    That’s $70 – $90 an hour. 


    kris325 – assuming that he does have to travel, and he’ll presumably spend 2 – 3 hours on the rehearsal/rehearsal dinner, then another…say…2 – 3 hours for the actual wedding, I would think that around $300 would be a fair donation.

    But again, ask others who attend the church or know someone who was married there. I’ve also considered where you live – the median household income in Clearwater is about $40k a year (I live in an area where it’s $30 – $35k a year).

    $300 here would be a nice chunk of change for a service like that. I would say, even in your circumstances, $500 or so would be the very upper limit. 

    $300 – $400 is reasonable, IMO.

    Post # 14
    402 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: October 2015

    Our minister doesn’t “charge” if you are a member of the congregation.  And, only one needs to be a member.  However, a donation is appreciated to the church.  He will charge for non-members though.  It can run into $500s, especially if it is at a location other than the church.  But, all of that money, sans gas of course, goes to the church.  He doesn’t keep it.

    Post # 15
    100 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: August 2013

    We are giving our officiant a gift card for a nice restaurant for $150 -$200. He is also a good family friend.

    Post # 16
    259 posts
    Helper bee

    Its hard to say what someone would donate or what someone should donate, everyones financial situation is different

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