Post # 1
Hi, I’m not TTC right now. I’m not married or even engaged but I was diagnosed with PCOS last year and I hadn’t really given it much thought until recently. I’m in a great relationship but we are not close to an engagement right now. I’m fine with this and don’t feel rushed or concerned about the pace of my relationship, but I’ve been thinking about my best case scenario timelines recently and my PCOS is starting to scare me.
Granted all of this would be compromised on when dealing with an actual partner, but my ideal timeline for my life would be: a 2 year courtship, 1 year engagement, and 2 or so years of marriage before TTC. Normally, none of this would be bothering me too much right now since I’m only 24, but I just reseached more about PCOS and I’m fairly certain I am a bad case. Before I went on birth control, I never got my period. It wasn’t intermittent, it wasn’t few and far between, it was NEVER. That means that I don’t ovulate at all. That means that I will undoubtedly need help of some sort when TTC. This throws a wrench in my no-pressure status right now. If i want to start trying before 35 (lets say at 31), that means I’ll have to be married by 29, engaged by 28, and meet with my future husband by 26. I understand that I’m freaking out a bit and that I don’t need to be worried about this yet. I get that, but I do want to have children someday and I’ve started to have nightmares about missing my chance.
Ladies with PCOS:
How long did it take you to conceive?
What age did you start TTC?
Did you have to rely on any kind of medical assistance to conceive?
Given the fact that I’d most definitely need assistance, at what age would you reccomend I start trying?
And yes, I know I’m putting the cart before the horse here, but if children are important to me (which they are), I might need to re-evaluate how I pictured my life because of my condition. (also, I am overweight and am starting a diet/exercise plan because that is a big factor for women with PCOS who have fertility issues.)
Post # 2
Having PCOS is totally not a death sentence for your fertility, and there are some studies that actually suggest women with PCOS are fertile longer/later in life than women who don’t have it.
I’m 33 now and was diagnosed with PCOS in my early twenties. We started TTC at 32 – I got pregnant the first try, though it ended in miscarriage due to a chromosomal problem. (Not PCOS related.) During that process, I gained a lot of weight, and we had a more difficult time on our second round of TTC, but last month I made an effort to eat better and exercise, lost six pounds… And got pregnant.
When I was your age, I got my period once or twice a year. I went on the pill until I was 32, and I started taking Metformin and lost about 45 lbs before our first try at TTC. Getting older actually seems to make things easier for many women with PCOS, so there really isn’t a rush. Work on losing weight in a slow and healthy manner, talk to your doctor about Metformin (and possibly going on the pill and/or spirinolactone to deal with the symptoms of PCOS) and don’t worry! You have plenty, plenty, plenty of time.
Post # 3
KatieBklyn: I have been on the pill since I was 18 and I do plan on losing weight, but since I seriously never get my period (not once is 5 years), I am worried that it won’t make any difference. I don’t have any symptoms apart from my hormonal imbalance (lack of period) and a difficulty losing weight. Even if I was 21, or 18, or 16 i still wouldn’t be ovulating at all.
Post # 4
cautiously3optimistic: I was diagnosed with PCOS about 2.5 years ago. I was on BC for ten years (16-27) and went off right after I got married. Not tyring to get pregnant then but wanting to try no hormones. Didn’t get my period for 6 months. Went to Dr and US confirmed “cysts” on my ovaries. Went back on the pill until January of this year when we decided to start TTC. No period by March so went to Dr and he gave me progesterone to induce and then I did a cycle of clomid (whihc I hated!). Nada. So I did nothing for a few months and neded up getting pregnant in June on my own.
So to answer your questions:
How long did we TTC: 6 months
Started TTC age: 30
Medical intervention: none for the actual pregnancy
When to strat: When you’re ready!
Honestly, start TTC when you’re ready. All my Dr advised was I not push it past 35. And most women with PCOS do end up pregnant, it can just take longer and require meds.
And if it matters – my sysmptoms of PCOS weren’t as bad as some: I have a BMI of 25 (5’4 and 148lbs) and only a bit of extra body hair. So maybe my homone variance is a bit less severe.
Post # 5
cautiously3optimistic: Diagnosed with PCOS at 13/14. Had irregular cycles and very painful when they came around. U/S confirmed multiple cysts on both ovaries, right ovary being the worst/had the most. Went on BC for 14 Years. Birth control worked awesome. All symptoms gone. Came off BC one year ago. TTC, but no luck. Most cycles I do not ovulate. Pain was back now during cycles. Used to be just around that time, but now extend all month. Doctor agrees I will need medication to help get pregnant.
Also… Thought I was pregnant some months due to the symptoms I was experiencing. To my surprise, (some) ovarian cysts cause those same symtpoms that you can see in pregnancy. Even more confusing when period is late/absent. Cry just about every month, if not from physcial pain, from emotional pain.
I hate dealing with this. I also hate the fact that many doctors just push it off as “things will get better.” Ummm… No. Not all cysts dissolve. Some grow and cause pain and rupture. make sure to find a good doctor who will listen to you and your needs!