Post # 1
Sigh… my husband just doesn’t get sometimes how it feels to be “broken”…
We’re in a long distance relationship (he works in another city while I go to school) and we’ve been trying since December… So today we were talking, and he says “Oh, did I tell you Caroline is pregnant? She complained that it took her 2 months to get pregnant”…
My heart broke…
He doesn’t realize that PCOS prevents you (especially when you have 60-90 day cycles) to get pregnant. Every month that goes by and still nothing is painful to me… My appointment to start meds is in September, but still… I’m angry and hurt and tired and so many emotions…
Seriously, Why don’t men think sometimes…
Post # 3
@misty_bear: My husband informed me that his coworker, whose wife delivered around our first cycle trying, are pregnant with their second. The day before I started bleeding, know that I thought I was going to start my period. I just about cried in the restaurant. =( Hugs, lady…
Post # 4
@misty_bear: Good luck in September! I have an appointment to discuss PCOS options too =) See your on the September POAS board?
Post # 5
@ChuckNorris: Probably… I’m sure I’ll need the extra support since he’s not here all the time… And thanks for the support! Good luck with your MD appointment
Post # 6
I’m sorry. Have you been TTC for a long time?
I have PCOS and I’ve gotten pregnant 3 times. One pregnancy was a miscarriage, one resulted in twins (no fertility drugs) and the other was a singleton. There is hope for those of us with PCOS. 🙂
Good luck at your appointment next month.
Post # 7
@misty_bear: Mine’s not either, he is a firefighter, and California is burning from all directions right now. So he usually comes home like once every three weeks, which isn’t too bad. But I feel ya =)
Post # 8
@ChuckNorris: Thats hard… I hope they get better soon so he gets to come home!
@MrsBlueSeptember: Thanks for the info… we’ve been trying for 6 months… and I’m just upset that he doesn’t listen to the way I feel… and should know even when I don’t say it
Post # 9
i totally know how you feel. i have pcos and hypothyroidism and after a year of ttc with the help of meds and iui’s, we’ve had no success and a recent miscarraige. i am constantly apologizing to my husband for being broken. i cry sometimes thinking that he could have found someone so much better than me, someone he could actually start a family with. he always tells me that i am all he wants, and anything else is just a bonus.
to make matters worse, my bestfriend/sister in law is due with her second baby the week after our due date was supposed to be. she has had three pregnancies (including one miscarraige), and has gotten pregnant on the first try every single time. it is super hard to be around her. she tries to be supportive, but never really seems to understand what i’m going through without having gone through it herself. there’s a huge disconnect there.
here is my advice, and i will try it myself: try not to be so hard on yourself. as long as you’re doing the best you can, your husband will think you’re just perfect.
Post # 10
So sorry. I have PCOS too, and we’ve been TTC for 20 months now. My hubby is usually good, but it is SO hard for men to understand how ‘broken’ and ‘defective’ we feel when we know that its our bodies preventing us from getting pregnant. My hubby always shows me pictures of his friends’ babies – he’s not doing it to be mean, he just thinks they are cute, and wants me to see. So I understand where you’re coming from for sure.
Have you talked to your Darling Husband about how it makes you feel when he brings up situations like that? He might just not realize how much it hurts you to hear about other women’s pregnancies.
Really hope your appointment goes well in September. Meds can help – I hope you find the right balance.
Post # 11
My heart goes out to you cyster. I know how you feel, my fi’s dream is to be a dad, and while we havent been ttc, we have done nothing to prevent it, to no avail. to make matters worse, they found a mass in my uterus…. but as all pps said, good luck on your appointmen, im prayin for yall.