Post # 1
I was wondering how many others also suffer from PCOS? & had issues TTC or NO issues TTC.
I had my most recent scans and i’ve gone from 14 cycts per ovary to over 25 on each. I am not ovulating, or at least VERY irregularly.
I am not planning on TTC for a few years but I am 25 and I would like to have some ideas/reassurance that others also go through this and have come out the other end.
I currently have an IUD – only for a few weeks now so still trying it out. So this would bring me to 30 when it’s to be removed and probably around the time I would like to TTC. My SO is hoping for more around 3 years but he doesn’t understand – timing. (Getting engaged/married first takes time… more than 3 years for us)
I came across a thread about fertility issues & TTC and people brought up adoption (which I know is a sore spot sometimes). I asked my SO just as a random question and he shot it down 100% saying we will have NO issues making a baby and there is no ‘plans’ or discussions that need to be made. I was just asking a question but then the answer got to me, so I asked him if he realised that I have fertility issues (I explained nothing confirmed to effect us but something to take into consideration before we get to that point.)
He said, doesn’t matter, won’t matter i’m young and thin and we won’t have any issues.
So really i’m here asking, did you have issues? Did you prepare for bad news? Did you make sure you had IVF savings? Or did you go into everything glass half full and then when things didn’t happen focus then?
My GP has NOT and WILL NOT go through how PCOS will effect my fertility because i’m young and shouldn’t worry. But I feel like the more people are telling me to not to worry I do nothing but.
I just don’t want to get to 30, waited because that’s what I thought was right for my life, go to try and can’t…
oh & how are your symptoms? do you suffer from many? If you read the list of what doctors say COULD be symptoms I have them all, except weight gain, but my protruding belly from my grossly oversized ovaries. help me.
Post # 2
I have a friend with PCOS and endo. After her diagnosis she changed her diet and it had dramatic effects. She married at 32 and they started trying straight away. She was pregnant 3 months later.
Victoria beckham has PCOS and she has lots of kids.
PCOS CAN make TTC harder but doesn’t have to. I recommend reading The Period Repair Manual and looking at non hormonal contraception.
You mentioned a GP so I’m assuming you’re in the UK. The NHS does find IVF but there are rules around who can have it so it’s worth finding out your local rules.
But I would advise you not to worry too much until you start trying. There was no indication or reason why it took us 2.5 years. It’s luck most of the time
Post # 3
Twizbe : thank you for your reply,
I feel so ridiculous for ‘worrying’ before there is a real problem but when things aren’t clear and in the dark they can be scary and the fact I have no real knowledge about how ‘bad’ my PCOS except from what google tells me I tend to overreact.
What would non-normonal contraception be? -Condoms are out, Copper IUD doesn’t work for me, I am not confident in the temping method I don’t think, do you have any other suggestions?
I am AUS, same same 😉 we have Medicare, but I haven’t looked into what gets covered.
Yeh, I feel like KNOWING MORE would just help me not worry. So I hope there are a couple more bees to help me calm my mind.
If this is TOO personal please ignore me, BUT if you had known it was going to take a long time to conceive would you have started earlier (if the stars aligned and technically you’re ready earlier?)
Post # 4
Basically it would be condoms, temping or copper IUD. I used natural cycles app between my children but with irregular cycles it might not be the best option. Why are condoms out?
Do read the book I recommended. It will tell you so much more about PCOS and how your diet can really improve symptoms. With PCOS what makes TTC hard is the irregularity of ovulation. You do ovulate just not very often. It only takes one egg and one sperm to make a baby.
Thats a very good question. We started trying when we were 29 and had been married about 2 years. We’d been together 10 years though. I think that was the right time for us to start. The journey was hard but it made us stronger as a couple and our son was born at the perfect time. We actually couldn’t have planned it better if we’d tried. going2bmrsc :
Post # 5
going2bmrsc : I’ve just found out I have PCOS at age 32. We were thinking of TTC sometime next year but have decided to just start now. The NHS has rules about how long you have to try in order to qualify for certain treatments.
Post # 6
I have severe PCOS (cycles ranging anywhere from 14 days to 160 days!) and also thyroid issues, which are another cause of infertility.
When my husband and I were ready to TTC, I really threw everything at it from the outset and was almost obsessive about temping, ovulation sticks and doing the deed even if both of us were tired/didn’t much fancy it. It was not romantic, but I did get pregnant twice in four months. I got pregnant our first month trying but had a chemical pregnancy at 4 weeks and I am now currently 38 weeks pregnant and waiting for our baby to arrive any day now!
I have had lots of friends with no diagnosable medical issues who have struggled to conceive and ended up doing IVF. I also have several friends with PCOS/other issues which are ‘supposed’ to impact fertility who have fallen pregnant pretty much immediately. It seems to be luck of the drawer!
You won’t know how easy it is going to be for you until you actually start TTC. Statistically, women with PCOS have a harder time conceiving (but that isn’t always the case), so we decided to actively start trying slightly earlier than we otherwise would have done in the expectation it would take us years i.e. we started trying when we knew a baby would be a happy surprise rather than waiting for life to be completely perfect (if it ever is) and to be gripped by full blown baby fever.
Post # 7
pampoovey : yes I have heard a lot about trying for a year before anyone takes concerns seriously. Which I guess I would want earlier than later. So there’s that to consider but it’s definately not a deal breaker that’s for sure.
splishsplash : yeh I hear you, see now question who decided it was severe? (I honestly want to know) a few years ago I was on 0 birth control (was not having sex) and I ovulated 4 times. In a year. That can’t be good right? One period a quarter. But I guess that’s the 160 days. I think I’ll probably do the same, throw everything at it, within a healthy parameter I feel like sometimes it could go bad? Stress? Over anylysing? But peace of mind and knowledge about your body would calm me more ahah.
Congrats on your beautiful baby! 😊😊
yes I think I might need to be more open about TTC before I’m as ‘ready’ as I think I should be. Which my SO will adore ahaha.
Twizbe : I just don’t know how confident I feel about tempting but I would feel amazing not putting all these extra hormones in my body. But I just can’t deal with a whoops right now in my life. Mirena is doing pretty okay so far. But I will get onto that book right away, learning helps calm me, knowledge is peace.
thank you for answering my question, I am a firm believer in life gives you what you need when you need it. But not many live a successful life not making plans and setting goals. So it’s tough, but not impossible.
Post # 8
Twizbe : and condoms are out because both my SO & I find them uncomfortable during sex and a mood killer with our spontinaity. It’s not the end of the world, but I’ll try 100 other things before I kill my lady boner. 😂
Post # 9
Have you thought of supplements like Myo Inositol to boost your chances of conceiving?
Post # 10
I am currently 33 with PCOS. I am also a year into fertility treatment, about to start my 2nd round of IVF after 2 miscarriages. If I were you, I would find a new doctor. Your doctor should be taking your concerns very seriously. Even if TTC is years off, there are things you can do now to give yourself the best shot. I would get of birth control (hormonal) to give your body time to get back to its normal. That way, you can monitor the length of your cycles, and even temp if you aren’t interested in confirming if and how often you ovulate. There are certain supplements you can take now, like CoQ10 to improve egg quality (sometimes an issue with PCOS), and inositol to help with hormone regulation. There are adjustments you can make in your diet to help with symptoms. Knowledge is power, and it’s smart to want to do everything you can to give yourself the best shot!
Post # 11
I have PCOS as well as Hashimoto disease with hypothyroidism. When we were almost ready to start to TTC I had changed my diet and started exercising and lost about 40 lbs. I saw my doctor and told her my concerns and she referred me to a fertility specialist to discuss my concerns. He put me on Metformin to help regulate my cycle as well as improve my egg quality. I took that for 1 month and then he decided we could do a timed intercourse cycle with Letrozole. A timed intercourse cycle is basically where they check your blood and do an ultrasound every other day to determine when you are ovulating and then they told us when to have sex. We got pregnant the first try with that and now I am 23 weeks pregnant.
Try not to stress to much about your PCOS. There are ways you can get pregnant! You need to just be positive and make some minor changes in your life to make that happen if it’s something you really want! I would say if you know you are going to start to TTC in the near-ish future, definitely ask about a referal to either an endocrinologist or a fertility specialist so that they can discuss options with you and what you can expect. Best of luck!
Post # 12
- Wedding: October 2016 - Wedgewood Las Vegas
I have PCOS, and a total thyroidectomy in 2018. My hubby and I are TTC at the moment. I am 34.
The ‘problem’ with PCOS is that it is such a wide, umbrella like condition. There can be such a high variability in symptoms and severity, that it can be hard to compare. For example, lots of women with PCOS can just adjust their diet, lose a little weight, and get pregnant easily.
Nope. Not me. Not even losing 40 lbs helped. I also don’t ovulate at all on my own. I’ve never had any cysts either.
We are now seeing a fertility specialist, and have started with the ultrasounds and letrozole. They seem confident that this medication will help me ovulate. They’ve also been very informative about our other options as well. We are currently in our first round of the pills, and I go for my first follow up ultrasound next week.
There are options out there, and you may not need to do IVF at all. However, it wouldn’t be a bad thing to start a saving account if you think you may really need to go down that route. IVF cycles are expensive, and are very rarely covered by any insurance.
I would also get a new doctor, as it is never too early to talk about them, even if you’re not ready to actually TTC at the moment. The more informed you are about your exact symptoms of PCOS, and potential treatments, the more relaxed you’ll be about it when it is time for you and your spouse to TTC.
Post # 13
- Wedding: October 2016 - Montego Bay, Jamaica
I think it’s kinda weird that your SO is so dismissive of your condition but you’re still young and hopefully you end up having no issues while TTC.
I am lean like you and have PCOS. I’m 30. I’ve been trying since I was 28. I didn’t think I would have any problems but I have extremely irregular periods and hardly ovulate on my own 🙁 A normal woman should ovulate every month so if you look at it that way, ladies like us have less chances to try for a baby than they do.
I’m seeing an infertility doctor now finally and she has given me an ultrasound and said that looks great and I don’t have any cysts. I have a hormonal imbalance so whatever is supposed to trigger my ovaries to ovulate isn’t and that’s why I don’t get regular periods. She is giving me Provera now to kick start my periods and wants to start me on something for ovulation next time I see her.
I think it’s great that you want to get educated! I was extremely lucky and got pregnant my 2nd cycle actively trying after a looooooooooong cycle last year but I miscarried that baby and my RE said it was most likely because of my late ovulation 🙁 So I am taking steps now to get the meds I need to ovulate sooner and regularly.
Post # 14
tommywantwingy : Yes!!
Your SO is acting very immature and dismissive. My FH also thinks I over worry about things but he can still listen and be supportive/understanding.
Aside from the medical stuff I think you need to tell your SO its NOT cool when he is dismissive of your concerns. Being young and thin is no guarantee that you or HE may not have fertility issues. Say you want to have an open conversation about these things as they are important.
Post # 15
My friend has PCOS and got pregnant during their first month of trying. She was extremely shocked it happened so soon especially since she was preparing for it to take a long time and possible intervention.