(Closed) PDA and “Get a room” comments (vent!)

posted 12 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
1131 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2021

I’ve never had it happen to me, but I would probably have said bite me? ๐Ÿ™‚ LOL Kidding, but to the woman I would have said “It’s also disgusting to treat a stranger like you are” and to the bike guy, I would have ignored him. He’s just some kid that was being a goofy jerk. You can mack on your husband when you want!

Post # 4
66 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

I’ve had this happen before too – at a bar, none the less. My response was to climb on my guy’s lap and plant a nice long kiss on him.

Post # 5
367 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2009

I guess PDA is in the eye of the beholder. my Fiance and I are affectionate, but not grossly so. we give each other pecks and hugs a lot. my mum has already warned me (multiple times) that i’m to tone it down for the wedding.

i do think the folks in your incidents overreacted.

Post # 6
3968 posts
Honey bee

Don’t let others opinions diminish your self-worth.  

Should you have covered your mouth on the subway – yeah, probably – but it’s not like you did anything majority offensive!  The lady who spoke to you was way out of line and I’d encourage you to think about why her forward, outspoken behavior is still bothering you 6 months later.

As for the PDA – some people will just say that.  I don’t think there is anything wrong with your behavior as it is quite socially acceptable.   

Life is full of people who will voice their opinions – you just have to learn to take it as it comes and try to let it roll off your back.  For me, understanding the root of why something bothered me so much, really helps me process the experience better.

p.s.  I hope in 5-10-15… years people will yell ‘get a room’ at me and hubby! ๐Ÿ™‚

Post # 7
441 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: March 2009

if he had been standing next you he probably would never had said anything.  The only reason he said something was cause he was on a bike and was already moving away from you.  He was just being a jerk.  If you are just kissing good-bye, it’s not an issue.  If, however you were standing in front of an elementary school groping each other and making out, that’s a different story.,  ๐Ÿ™‚


Post # 9
88 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: October 2009

my Fiance and i are very affectionate as well.  we are always giving each other little kisses and gazing into each other’s eyes.  we have never had anyone say anything about pda or getting a room.  that guy on the bike was just being annoying.  who cares about him, it was just a kiss.

Post # 10
121 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: October 2009

I can think of 2 words, the first starts with an f and the second with a y.  I can’t stand people like that – both of them were rude and deserve rudeness back.  I get the whole ‘kill them with kindness’ but I only use that if I have to see them again! ๐Ÿ™‚

Post # 11
716 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2009 - City Hall

hah! I second AbbyM.

Post # 12
8375 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2009

I’m all for hand holding and a little snuggle or kiss depending on where we are. Particularly if a good bye is involved. Some places are off-limits (grocery stores? ha) as we are very anti-PDA in general. We’re very affectionate in private.

That being said, people say just about anything to anybody! If you guys were getting it on, i’d say “get a room” too! lol. Just yell back “bite me” and don’t let it bug you! They’re just obnoxious people. It’s not like you’re literally doing anything excessive.

By The Way, is it really “disgusting behavior” to not cover your mouth in a yawn? People amaze me. I’d have told some random woman off and told her to mind her own business…or faked a big ole yawn in her face.

Post # 13
467 posts
Helper bee

I have to say, regarding the subway incident, you were both rude.  You should cover your mouth, she should mind her own business when it’s such a slight infraction of the social code.  But I don’t think the rule is “everyone should mind their business all the time.”  I saw some kids throwing a ball on a bus, bothering the other passengers, and I felt like saying something, but didn’t.  They then hit a very elderly woman (probably in her 80s) in the head.  I felt so badly that I hadn’t asked them to stop earlier…

Post # 14
2400 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2009

Since when is yawning so offensive?  I guess I do cover my mouth out of habit, but not to be more socially acceptable.  I would never think twice about someone yawning on the subway without covering their mouth…unless it was right in my face.

Post # 15
4194 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: May 2010

Wow – people are picking on you for kissing your husband and yawning?? I wonder what kind of sheltered lives they lead.

In the moment I would either stare at these people strangely or you could shout “Excuse Me!!” with exaggerated importance.

Post # 16
268 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2009

Your post reminds me of an incident that happened to me one Saturday night in a downtown bar district a couple of months ago. I was walking across the street with my guy friend and this car full of guys drove by. One of them leaned out the window and yelled ‘Hey! I wanna f*ck your face’ and drove off. I was astonished and mad because they were gone before I even had a chance to yell back.

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