(Closed) PDA/Inappropriate public conversation

posted 8 years ago in Intimacy
Post # 3
971 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2008

PDA in a restaurant is a no-no.  I guess a peck on the lips is ok, but not full-out make out session. 

As for talking about sex at the table of a family restaurant, I didn’t realize that there were certain subjects that were conversationally taboo.  If the couple was being loud about the sexual banter, then I would’ve asked a waitress to either tell them to pipe it down or would’ve asked for another table.  But, if they’re talking about it in a normal voice, I would’ve left well enough alone. 

I had lunch with a friend of mine the day after Christmas and we were discussing another friend’s poor sexual choices (random hook ups for sex with total strangers via internet) over lunch in a restaurant.  But we spoke in quiet voices so not to draw attention. 

Post # 4
2790 posts
Sugar bee

I definately wouldn’t be gettin it on in a restaurant but SO and I definately talk about all aspects of life even the dirty ones. I tend to not have an inside voice so if someone next to me heard me it wouldn’t be intentional. I wouldn’t be trying to disturb or offend anyone around me but I talk about what is on my mind because I can. If that bothers someone usually SO is the first to remind me to keep it down but I’m not going to avoid a topic just because someone around me might not like it.

Post # 5
2765 posts
Sugar bee

To me, it depends a lot on the type of restaurant.  If it was a bar or a trendy restaurant aimed at young people, I’d think nothing of it.  But if it was a family-style restaurant targeted at families and my parents were there, I’d be pretty upset and would say something to the waiter or manager. 

If the restaurant did nothing or the couple didn’t tone it down, I’d also get my food to go and never go back.

Post # 6
1227 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

This might sound weird, but I think people tend to talk too loudly in public anyway. I don’t want to hear another table’s conversation, even if they’re NOT talking about sex. It seems a little like attention-seeking behavior to me, and it’s annoying. I wish people would modify their speaking volume to match the situation – in a loud bar or restaurant? Go ahead and talk as lout as you want. In a quiet, romantic, or family-oriented place? Maybe pipe down a little bit. And don’t even get me started on people who jabber away at the top of their lungs on their cell phones in public. So rude.

As far as the PDA, it’s hard to say, since I didn’t see what the couple was doing. But generally speaking, anything more than a quick peck is inappropriate at the dinner table in my book. I mean, people are eating!

Post # 7
16191 posts
Honey Beekeeper

In general, I tend to think that people *should* take their settings into consideration more often. But, of course, that’s not always realistic. 🙂

Post # 9
4546 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

I agree, I don’t like PDA in public. Ick. Save it for the bedroom people 😉

Post # 10
714 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

@Leah0486:  Yes.  If it had been me I would have said something to them or asked the restaurant to do so.

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