(Closed) Peace in the Waiting

posted 6 years ago in Waiting
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2018

Post # 3
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Blushing bee

Hello fellow waiting bee! It always makes me feel better to know that I’ll never get this time in my life back, the time when we’re still just boyfriend/girlfriend. That helps me to wait.

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Helper bee
  • Wedding: February 2017

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Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2016

Hi fellow waiting bee! I’m trying so hard to be patient. Thank you for posting this 🙂

Post # 7
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Sugar bee

 These are great, guys!

I don’t have a quote, but similar to a PP above – Sometimes i like to remind myself that we will never have this time in our lives again. The anticipation and excitement. The “what-ifs” and the butterflies thinking about the future. We will have the rest of our lives to be an old married couple :p

doesnt always help LOL but sometimes 

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Bee Keeper

Thanks for such a positive thread 🙂 I can be impatient and occasionally even insecure while Waiting, but my SO is definitely worth the wait. I try to remind myself that what is a ‘Waiting’ stage for me is actually a ‘Planning’ stage for him 🙂

Post # 9
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: February 2016

I have trouble with this too, but I’ve seen in proposals that a lot of girls wish they would’ve been less stressed about waiting and just enjoyed being bf/gf (similar to what a previous poster said). I try to focus on that, and also on the fact that we’ve been together for 10 years and we still have a blast together every day. It helps me remember that I would much rather be with him and unmarried than be married to anyone else in the world. I know we will be married someday and just I need to let him take his time. Like you (and Winnie!) said: you’re lucky to have someone worth waiting for. Enjoy every day with him because you guys are awesome together…married or not!

Post # 10
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Busy bee

Well, aside from my partner and i finally being on the same page about commitment, what worked for me was finding something more important than a wedding. Engagement and weddings are a very very brief time in your life on the bigger picture. I feel like I’ve said it a thousand times and feel weird saying it again but it’s been so true for me!

It helped tremendously finding something that would interest me after a wedding as much as before. All the typical advice, pick up a new hobby, hang out with friends more, go to the gym, pick up more hours at work, none of that worked. When I decided to go into a new career field though, that changed a LOT. That combined with my partner and I being on the same page finally and both ready fixed it. Now I’m so busy with working towards this new goal I truly don’t have time to wonder about wedding details endlessly. (Actually starting to dread having to plan and pay for things for real instead of just dreaming, lol)

Do I still think about it? Yeah I do. Mainly because I covet the perception of a couple’s status once they get engaged and then married. People take you and your relationship more serious, give you a new level of respect and I wish I had that, so I am impatient for that aspect. It’s more of a passing thought now and then instead of a worry though. 

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