Post # 1
I’ve really been struggling to find contentment and peace during the waiting period. I was hoping you could all share a quote or a thought that helps you keep your sanity in the “pre-engaged” time.
Here’s mine: “The longer you wait for something, the more you appreciate it when you get it, because anything worth having is definitely worth waiting for.”
And a little revision of Winnie the Pooh’s quote: “How lucky I am to have something worth waiting for.”
May you all find peace in this engagement season!
Post # 3
Hello fellow waiting bee! It always makes me feel better to know that I’ll never get this time in my life back, the time when we’re still just boyfriend/girlfriend. That helps me to wait.
Post # 6
Hi fellow waiting bee! I’m trying so hard to be patient. Thank you for posting this 🙂
Post # 7
These are great, guys!
I don’t have a quote, but similar to a PP above – Sometimes i like to remind myself that we will never have this time in our lives again. The anticipation and excitement. The “what-ifs” and the butterflies thinking about the future. We will have the rest of our lives to be an old married couple :p
doesnt always help LOL but sometimes
Post # 8
Thanks for such a positive thread 🙂 I can be impatient and occasionally even insecure while Waiting, but my SO is definitely worth the wait. I try to remind myself that what is a ‘Waiting’ stage for me is actually a ‘Planning’ stage for him 🙂
Post # 9
I have trouble with this too, but I’ve seen in proposals that a lot of girls wish they would’ve been less stressed about waiting and just enjoyed being bf/gf (similar to what a previous poster said). I try to focus on that, and also on the fact that we’ve been together for 10 years and we still have a blast together every day. It helps me remember that I would much rather be with him and unmarried than be married to anyone else in the world. I know we will be married someday and just I need to let him take his time. Like you (and Winnie!) said: you’re lucky to have someone worth waiting for. Enjoy every day with him because you guys are awesome together…married or not!
Post # 10
Well, aside from my partner and i finally being on the same page about commitment, what worked for me was finding something more important than a wedding. Engagement and weddings are a very very brief time in your life on the bigger picture. I feel like I’ve said it a thousand times and feel weird saying it again but it’s been so true for me!
It helped tremendously finding something that would interest me after a wedding as much as before. All the typical advice, pick up a new hobby, hang out with friends more, go to the gym, pick up more hours at work, none of that worked. When I decided to go into a new career field though, that changed a LOT. That combined with my partner and I being on the same page finally and both ready fixed it. Now I’m so busy with working towards this new goal I truly don’t have time to wonder about wedding details endlessly. (Actually starting to dread having to plan and pay for things for real instead of just dreaming, lol)
Do I still think about it? Yeah I do. Mainly because I covet the perception of a couple’s status once they get engaged and then married. People take you and your relationship more serious, give you a new level of respect and I wish I had that, so I am impatient for that aspect. It’s more of a passing thought now and then instead of a worry though.