Post # 1
I just recently got engaged and am in love with the idea of a pearl engagement ring. It’s very ME and very US. I’ve read about the potential for the pearl to be damaged but I wear a pearl necklace to work every day and have not had any problems over the years.
I don’t like diamonds – they just aren’t my thing. And as much as I looked at other stones I keep going back to the pearl because it matches my style and is also my birth stone.
Do folks have any tips on good places to get a pearl ring? Does anyone have a positive story?
Post # 3
I don’t know much about the durability of pearls, but just wanted to encourage you to get something other than a diamond if that’s not your thing. My ring is a sapphire, and I love it 🙂
Post # 4
I think that pearl rings look amazing and if that’s what you want then go for it!
BUT I just wanted to point out that yes, pearls can get damaged and if you plan to wear your ring every day and not just for special occasions you need to be aware of that. Your hands hit, touch, brush things a lot more often than a necklace would. Think of digging in your bag for things, reaching into draws and cupboards etc etc. You just need to be extra careful with a pearl is all that I am saying.
Possibly see if you can get insurance on it for accidental damage?
I hope that you find your dream pearl ring, perhaps try etsy.com? They have some more unusual things on there.
Post # 5
you may wear a pearl necklace, but a ring is more likely to come into contact with walls, tables, other hard things. i know i’ve whacked my ring into lots of stuff. i don’t know well a pearl would hold up but maybe you are not as clumsy as me!
Post # 6
I got a pearl ring from Gordon’s (I’m assuminng you are in the states!) for my 16th birthday I wore it EVERYDAY from the time I got it, until the time I got engaged, (19). I banged that thing around. I was by no means gentle to it and 4 years later (I’m 20 now.) it still looks fabulous. The Pearl has never fallen out or gotten loose. I recently saw that they have a couple of gorgeous styles. I occasionally wear it still as a RHR, I really love pearls and sometimes whish I had a pearl engagement ring, but I love my moissy. 🙂 haha
Post # 7
I had a pearl ring when I was younger. I didn’t wear it everyday, and wasn’t too hard on it, but one day while shopping I looked down and the pearl was gone. I’ve also heard that pearls can be discolored by oils in the skin or something? I have a beautiful black and white pearl necklace and the black ones have a purple tint to them now that weren’t there before. I’d research it a little bit, just to be safe. I’d hate for you to get a ring that you love so much and have it ruined 🙁
Maybe go with a stronger alternative that isn’t as ‘delicate’ and get a nice pair of pearl earrings to match the necklace? Or get a pearl ring for your right hand that you wear on special occasions?
Post # 8
Pearls are so beautiful. Something about their irridescence and soft glow is utlra feminine and compliments a woman’s beauty.
Unfortunately, however, they are very soft and delicate. On the Mohs Scale, pearls rate at 2.5 -3. To put this in context, fingernails rank at a 2.2. Exposure to heat should be limited and pearls must be protected from harsh blows as the nacre will scratch very easily. Also, avoid contact with chemicals, especially perfumes, perspiration and hair sprays.
I agree with the other PP’s in saying that maybe you should get a RHR to wear on special occasions? You can still have a pearl e-ring but you will have to be very careful when wearing it and understand that it may not last a lifetime. 🙁
Also, what kind of pearl do you plan on getting? Akoya pearls are beautiful (I have an Akoya & diamond pearl pendant from the SO and it has this lovely glow to it) but they have a thinner nacre than South Sea or Tahitian pearls (about .25 -.5 mm for Akoya pearls vs. .8mm for Tahitians and 2 – 4mm for South Sea pearls which are usually very expensive but are gorgeous).
Either way, if you don’t like diamonds, then don’t feel forced to get one. There are plenty of other gemstones that are durable and hold up well to everyday wear. 🙂
Post # 9
Be super gentle with your pearl e-ring, if that’s what you ultimately decide on. Pearls are soft (about a 3 on the Mohs scale), and can become discolored by oils, perfumes, and lotions. Often times they are bonded into their setting with a special glue instead of held in place with prongs, and they can break off or fall out of their setting. Wearing a pearl necklace cannot be compared to wearing a pearl ring, unless you go around banging your neck into things the way you bang your hands into things every day (haha!). I’d suggest getting a sturdy setting, like a bezel, around the pearl to protect it from getting banged up. Maybe get another e-ring for your everyday wear and a pearl e-ring for special occasions?
Post # 10
@MerryWidow: Pearls can be damaged by perfumes and oils but when they wear against your skin its good for their lustre or so I heard.
Post # 11
I had a mother of pearl ring for YEARS (like 12+) and never had a problem with it, though mine had an acrylic finish over the MOP part. Maybe something like that could work for an everyday e-ring for you.
Post # 12
My aunt has a pearl engagement ring she sometimes still wears. She lives in Hawaii, so I’m sure it’s very good quality- it still looks stunning!
@HelleCat: Yes, you might need some kind of finish on it.
Post # 13
Well that makes sense!! It’s probably my perfume that made my black pearls look weird. It’s still beautiful though!
Post # 14
I’d love to see a picture of what you are thinking of. Pearls are beautiful!
Post # 15
I have a pearl ring from Blue Nile and I love it. I don’t wear it daily, but it looks as good as when I got it (last Xmas, I know.. not too long). It’s my birthstone too and I love it.
I have lots of freshwater pearls (including the Blue Nile one).. I guess they’re the ‘cheap’ pearls, and I have yet to damage one. Not sure if you’re looking for a ‘real’ pearl ie one actually found in an oyster naturally. They’re very expensive but I am unsure about durability. I think cultured pearls are yet another variation… with middle of the road prices. I guess just do your research and go with what you like best 🙂
Post # 16
I think it depends also on the setting. I would definitely go with a setting that looks secure and will protect the pearl to an extent. Love these two I found on Etsy…