(Closed) Peopel are not going to like this (revised)

posted 7 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 139
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2015

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@nattiejeanne: Maybe people don’t agree with some of the things you are doing in your recent post and since you have now made at least 2 posts about how you hate when people tell you they disagree with what you’re doing they are just choosing not to say anything at all? 

Why did you say in the first and subsequent posts in this topic that you were going to be providing alcohol to your guests, but now you say you’re not?

Post # 140
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

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@Zhabeego:  +100,000. OP, you can’t throw a party and then ask other people to pay for it, which is exactly what you are doing with a cash bar or potluck reception. And it is even more rude to do this with a wedding reception, because your reception is meant to be a “thank you” to your guests for attending your wedding.

Host what you can afford. There is no law (in etiquette or otherwise) that says your wedding must be in the evening with a dinner reception and alcohol. As other posters have noted, cake and punch, cheese and crackers, brunch, lunch, or a dry dinner are all appropriate options for a wedding reception, as long as you are providing a meal that corresponds with the time of day. You are 100% correct that you are not required to serve alcohol.

But when you need to pass along the costs of the reception to your guests by asking them to provide their own refreshments, then what you are planning IS extravagant. It is extravagant because you can’t afford it. 

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